Is it possible for them to change? My one told me as he called me a mistake that he was going back to his ex and as she told him to work on himself to be a better husband and father, he was going to counselling. Can that help them? All through our relationship he told he how he couldn’t stand her, hated her, couldn’t bear to be near her and then when she told him that she was moving on, was happier in her life, was in a new relationship, all of a sudden she was the most important person ever to be apart of his life and wanted her back. Never loved me and called me the cruelest names, insulted my children and knocked my confidence so far into the ground I don’t know how I will recover. So does counselling help?