I wrote a post about Confusion & Chaos and how Sociopath, Narcissist and/or Pyscopath’s create such chaos in our lives. In this post, I am going to help explain the confusion put in place by kindess.
In the beginning of your relationship, it was all hearts & flowers. Emotional compatibility. Sexual compatibility. Shared goals, similar lifestyle. The list is endless!! And then you blink your eyes, and bam! A total emotionally disconnected person is before you. Yes, he still looks the same, but his entire being is not the person you fell in love with. Introducing your Sociopath, Narcissist and/or Psychopath!!
Now that you know what type of of person you are now involved with, you will find yourself being Killed With Kindness. Once he has you where he originally set out to put you, on his agenda of destruction, confusion of kindness will be one more thing you deal with. When they are needing more ammunition (to be used against you), or more fuel (to keep up with their fake persona), or any type of financial gain, they will turn back into the kindest, caring, compassionate man. He may take you on the most romantic perfect date. Or you might come home to dinner, bath by candle lite. Or he may even offer to visit your family with you!! He could even encourage you to go out with your friends. There may even be gifts involved. You will have endless conversations again (without all the ugly/hateful comments). His text messages will be filled with love, and longing to be with you. Emails will be sent in joking (instead of attacking). Or you may receive text messages/emails with sexual undertones that you were so attracted to.
You find yourself thinking “YES! He is finally back to his old self“, but don’t be confused. This is who they are, in a perpetual state of chaos. There is a constant mental and emotional pushing and pulling done by Sociopath’s, Narcissist and Psychopath’s. This pushing and pulling is done to keep you off-balance to what is actually happening in your life. Because Sociopath, Narcissist and/or Psychopath’s have difficulty with any long term commitment, they bascially have two modes of operation about themselves. Kindness and Hatefulness. You now understand how their mind is constantly in ‘spin cycle’, no forward, no backward, just crazy spin. So they draw you in with the Kindness and push you away with the hatefulness. It is very hard not to fall back into believing your Sociopath, Narcissist when they are being kind. We want so much to believe them during these calm moments. And we tend to hang onto these moments because this is the person we fell in love with (we thought). The words of kindness, and actions of kindness are what we crave! Because Sociopath’s and Narcissist are so over the top with their kind words and actions, we want this to be the norm. Instead, they are in all reality Killing Us With Kindness.
The Devil Is The Author Of Confusion. benjamin disraeli
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