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Female Sociopath

Statistically there are more male sociopath’s than female. Because there is not a database as such for ‘documented’ Sociopaths this statistic is made up from  Martha Stout Ph.D and her book ‘The Sociopath Next Door’.  The National Mental Health Institute says it’s 1 in 100 and that it’s more likely to find Antisocial Personality Disorder (the DSM-IV term) in men.

I believe it is harder to identify Antisocial Personality Disorder, specifically Narcissistic Sociopath in women as often times they have been labeled the ‘vindictive ex-wife’, or the ‘crazy ex-girlfriend’. These women can also portray the helpless victim mask, therefore gaining more sympathy and more {false} credibility. Society as a whole, tends to overlook female Sociopaths simply because when a relationship with a female Sociopath falls apart they are usually labeled the crazy ex-whatever. Sociopath women lie so easily and without conscience, that when the relationship with their partner falls apart {after they methodically and systematically destroy it} they can make their partner out to be a worthless, horrible human, (when in all reality, she probably sucked the life out of him). When a man has been a victim of a Female Sociopath, usually one of the above labels is given, {crazy ex-girlfriend, vindictive ex-wife ect} instead of a Sociopath and/or Narcissistic Sociopath.

Female Sociopaths are mentally and emotionally destructive liar’s, cheaters & deceivers, etc. They are extremely self-centered, and she is always right! Some female sociopaths may be unable to care for their children, providing the unconditional love and nurturing. Her children are just another ‘object’ to be used against the father. The children are often used as a supply source for her. Or in some cases divorced sociopath women with children will use them to gain sympathy from a new partner. These children can grow up feeling like an inconvenience to their mother’s, as they are also emotionally and mentally manipulated. They are also, in some cases made to feel inadequate, and never living up to their mother’s standards. Some female sociopaths are emotionally disconnected from their children, causing the ‘whiplash’ scenario, leaving the children with a deep craving for admiration. Could this be the beginning of some Narcissist?

Many of these women ‘appear’ normal in the public setting, but are verbally and emotionally abusive in the private setting. The Female Sociopath needs to be dominate, and she does this by being verbally intimidating and emotionally manipulative. She will systematically attack your personality, your objections, your displays of emotion, and your questions. She does this to obtain her supply source, {boost to her ego/dominating factor} They want do this with  little or no regards to your needs and wants. To a Female Sociopath the end justify’s the mean’s.

Female Sociopath have a high sex drive, and in case studies, sex is not just good, it is over-the-top good. They are also very sexually promiscuous.  As with this sex drive, they use this as one of the many manipulation tools to attract her next victim, she  will use sex to her advantage, unbeknownst to the male.  She will appear sympathetic, caring, concerned and display all the empathy/sympahty emotions, when in all reality she is pulling you in closer to keep the control for personal gain.  This could be for material possessions, financial reasons, or reassurance that she is ‘the one’ (when she in fact may have several ‘one’s on the side). If a Female Sociopath feels she is being exposed,  she may turn up the passion, and give you the false sense of  security that you have nothing to fear. Or you will begin to see the Narcissistic Rage(s) if you haven’t already. She may be setting you up to leave, so she will keep you emotionally and physically close. Female Sociopaths can show fake their emotions if they are caught, and blame perhaps a one incident {yet you know the incidents are repeated behaviour}, on someone or something else, never taking accountability. Some men are so drawn to the physical aspect with a female Sociopath that when they catch their partner, girlfriend/wife cheating and lying, they tend to believe the lies more easily because the female Sociopath can turn on the sex factor, play the ‘pity card’, or cry rivers of tears while expressing how “sorry” she is etc.  Therefore this puts the man back into the spin cycle of crazy and the false sense of security.

Women sociopaths are PTA mom’s, soccer mom’s, the ‘girl next door’. They are brutality emotionally and financially destructive. Female Sociopaths have a better time manipulating the court system (as they prey on the sympathy) of lawyer’s, judges etc, and can fake show their tears much easier than men. These women easily manipulate the court system in their favour with financial judgments, all done by made up lies about the man, false documentation, and coerced  ‘statement’s’, thus leaving the men financially ruined. Male victims of a female Sociopath not only have to grasp what they just went through, and accept the hard blow to the ego, but they may also have to fight the ex in the court system for custody, and/or shared custody. And this usually is a very tough battle, as Female Sociopaths have many labels they can hide behind. {ie: these false labels can be physical abuse, financial destitution etc.} And society as a general rule of thumb grants custody to the female parent in most cases. Once again, when dealing with a Sociopath, the same amount of emotional and mental devastation, financial loss, friendships destroyed etc. are not gender specific. Female Sociopaths are just as viscous and vindictive as the male Sociopath. They can make you feel inadequate, violated, and a need to control each and every situation.

Here are a couple of traits of female sociopaths. I believe Narcissistic Sociopath is not gender related, these people just have different names and faces.

  • no real values
  • secret lives: hiding money, friends, affairs
  • slow to forgive: holds onto resentement
  • high blaming behaviour: projects faults onto other’s {even her children}
  • repeatedly fails to honor financial obligations
  • constantly seeking admiration
  • she breaks her man’s spirits to keep them dependent: she has a viscous way of cutting you down
  • undermines your ability to make choices
  • she has to be right~she has to win: whatever the situation may be. You will find yourself just ‘giving in’ to keep the peace
  • lacks ability to see how she comes across to others: be it verbally, or her actions
  • she announces, not discusses ~she tells, not asks
  • she does not listen because she does not really care: your opinions and/or complaints are an annoyance.
  • she exudes very little empathy and/or sympathy
  • You feel miserable with this person as she is draining the life out of you.

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850 Responses to “Female Sociopath”

  1. Leon Kitagawa

    I’m there right now and as a male anger management is the biggest lie

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  2. Don

    I’ve read numerous websites and articles on narcissit and sociopaths, most of which are about men. This was by far the best I’ve read and about women with this disorder. I’ve never been so completely blown away by an article such as this one was, that it was so spot on to my current toxic relationship. Thank you for such a great read.

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  3. John

    Step 1: Never give them money if they have no visible way to repay. Step 2: run.

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  4. corey crosby

    It’s been almost 2 years since I have seen my IT.. Things have gone good for me and I am focused on my goals more than anything now. I gave up the dating! I do have a question, I do have dreams of my ex trying to get me back. Then she tells me I have to leave so she can go back to her guy named Rob. I keep having this dream a lot. Not to mention the verbal abuse and the lies. Does this dream mean she is coming back to destroy me again?She lives in Crowley and Burleson Texas. I stay away from that area! Every time I pass through that part of DFW area it brings back memories. So that’s why I never go to that part of town. I just feel like I have some form of PTSD. But not sure yet…

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    • rob

      not really that good on dream interpretation, very good on intuition when it comes to “its”.

      your heart has and will lead you correctly! stay focused on you and your goals and becoming the best person you can possibly be. In time the ptsd, anxiety, and hypervigilence will pass.

      read self improvement books – work on becoming the kind of man that would never allow any person or thing to ever hurt you in such a way……

      when you learn to love yourself the way you need to – these type of people will have no place in your mind or your life as you will come to know you are just too damn good for the bull shit!!

      peace

      rob

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      • corey crosby

        Thank you Rob!! I feel like I do good at times! But the fear of running into her and her trying to come back scares me! But I will take you’re advice and get self help books!!

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      • Tela

        Yes, read the self help books Rob has suggested, but also, you know the Ex’s pattern’s, routine etc. Therefore, YOU can make sure not to run into by avoiding places you know she will be at certain times. You can do this; it just takes a LONG time.

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      • corey crosby

        Thank you Rob and Tela! I am 40 years old and I have had a lot of girlfriends in my past. But I never opened my heart to any of them. But to my ex I did and the worst Part she knows that she is the first girl that I gave my heart and soul to! She was smiling when she asked that, it freaked me out. Like there was something on her mind. That’s why I get the feeling she will be back. She is a Narcissist and a Sociopath all in one..

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      • rob

        corey wayne had some good stuff on purpose an becoming the best man you can be. a lot of his stuff is more prepping you to be attractive to women so keep that in mind…….but still good stuff on getting your shit together —– love wayne dyers stuff too as well as mastery by robert green, power of positive thinking by peale, also i read a lot of books about great men – boys in the boat is an incredible story about a guy who overcame ten times more than any of us ever will – great inspirational story – love that kind of stuff – tons out there 🙂 —- read all you can and then read no more mr nice guy, and the way of men by jack donovan – good luck buddy 🙂

        Rob

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    • rob

      been where you are and all of the help i received from others paved the way for my healing……..and continued healing…….it takes years to get over the pain they inflict. I read somewhere that for every year you spend in a relationship with them it takes a half a year to get back to some semblance of normal. I was in a relationship with my ex it for 8 years and have been removed from her for almost four years.

      Its a process I will always have to work through but there is joy on this side of things….in many ways a much deeper joy…….just takes time buddy and most importantly – NO CONTACT!!!

      no contact is the only way you can ever heal from them

      Rob

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  5. Brent

    This kind of breaks my heart. The list at the end? My estranged wife is every single one of those.

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  6. Frankie

    This is incredible. Describes a situation I was in with a female co worker. Everything was my fault and cut me out of her life with no type of empathic evaluation. Good thing I slept with her older sister on Valentine’s Day😂😂😂😂

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  7. Justin

    Holy Shit! This is my ex wife to a tee. Finally found out what the hell she is. Just called it the female devil syndrome.Thankyou. It gives me relief at least mowing what’s dealing with. My son is the one I’m worried about. Love him so much and that’s how his mama is. It breaks my heart seeing what she puts him through. I’m a strong minded man and a loving father. I will teach him how to be strong.

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    • rob

      I consider that day back in January 2014 as one of my best days ever! The day i discovered what she was 🙂 Over the last 3 years I have studied the issue and researched the problem thoroughly. Ultimately I divorced her and my life has improved dramatically because of it.

      However, without that firm knowledge of what she was, I may have not ever left her? I believe that a huge step in the healing process is knowledge of the reality. The reality that you have been living with something less than human.

      Make wise decisions where your kids are concerned and document everything – you have no idea whatsoever what this type of woman is capable of doing……………but i will tell you………….it’s anything and everything you can imagine and worse

      rob

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