A Healing & Informative Site About Narcissistic Sociopaths


Number one question? How can the Sociopath be so EVIL?? 

As a counselor we often have a hard time discerning between an EVIL Sociopath, or an ordinary sinner who messes up, who isn’t perfect, and full of weakness and sin. I think one of the reasons we don’t “see” EVIL is because we find it so difficult to believe that EVIL individuals actually exist. We can’t imagine someone deceiving us with no conscience, hurting others with no remorse, spinning outrageous fabrications to ruin someone’s reputation, or pretending they are spiritually committed yet have no fear of God or repercussions of their lies/deceit/abuse. Please keep in mind Sociopaths are not born a Sociopath!! Their core being/character traits/make-up is ALL learned behavior over time.

  1. Evil Sociopaths are experts at creating confusion and contention. They twist the facts, lie, avoid taking responsibility, deny reality, make up stories and withhold information. {yet you are to do the exact opposite, be truthful, responsible, give detailed information, and God forbid you confront the Sociopath about their lies/deceit!!!}
  2. Evil Sociopaths are experts at fooling others with their smooth speech and flattering words. You can go back and remember all the hearts & flower words spoken from the Sociopath. The easy conversations, they way they drew you in with their praises, and attention. The euphoric sex, craving to be with them. But if you look at the fruit of their lives, the history of failed relationships one after another, or the follow through of their words, you will find no real evidence of godly growth or change. It’s all smoke and mirrors. {however, if you said you were going to do something, you had better have done it! And if you changed your mind about something you would be accused of ‘not following through’, “see your word doesn’t mean shit” is normally what a Sociopath would say.}
  3. Evil Sociopaths crave and demand control, and their highest authority is their own self-reference. They reject feedback, real accountability, and make up their own rules to live by. They use Scripture to their own advantage but ignore and reject passages that might require self-correction and repentance. {if you have a faith/religion you believe in, the Sociopath will use that as ammunition against you. Remember, their highest authority is their own self-reference.}
  4. Evil Sociopaths play on the sympathies of good-willed people, often trumping the grace card. They demand mercy but give none themselves. They demand warmth, forgiveness, and intimacy from those they have harmed with no empathy for the pain they have caused and no real intention of making amends or working hard to rebuild broken trust. {if you don’t bend to their demands, or beg for forgiveness the abuse becomes even worse. And whatever you do, do not even expect a sincere apology from the Sociopath.}
  5. Evil Sociopaths have no conscience, no remorse.They do not struggle against sin or evil—they delight in it—all the while masquerading as someone of noble character. They believe grace means they are immediately granted immunity from the relational fallout of their serious sins, abuse, hurtful/hateful words and actions. They believe forgiveness entitles them to full reconciliation and will pressure you to comply. {I have written many articles about Sociopaths and their lack of conscience/remorse etc. #5 is what truly makes the Sociopath EVIL}

When you confront evil, chances are good that the EVIL Sociopath will stop communicating/arguing etc. with you because the darkness hates the light. And all Sociopaths are filled with darkness. The foolish and EVIL Sociopath rejects correction. But that outcome is far better than allowing the EVIL Sociopath to believe you are on ‘their side’ or “they’re not that bad” or “they are really sorry” or “they are changing or will change” when, in fact, they never,ever, EVER will.

when you allow the evil person in your life, things will come up missing like: joy, peace, love, hope, faith. yes! evil people steal these from you       unknown


4 Responses to “Evil”

  1. Sharon M Ross

    That’s so true! I was married to one for 18 years. But honestly I was to busy trying figure him out and what was wrong with him. The lying, stealing, and the women! Wow! I guess to make me jealous. But my thoughts was to leave his ass, but the right way. Evil is right! What I saw was a black shadow shape like my husband at the foot of my bed. I knew it was him!


  2. Susan

    Just curious. How do you deal with a sociopath who is a close family member, one you are forced to live with due to financial constraints? Suggestions please!


    • Kim

      Start planning now! Are there other family members you can temporarily go to for help and support? If so, run! I left a 10 year marriage living with a sociopath. Those last words from the article “joy, peace, love, hope, faith” are everything the sociopath tries to suck from you. Know matter how hard you beg and plead, they will never change. They actually see your tears and pain as a “gain” in their pocket! When dealing with him, set boundaries and don’t budge; even if he makes you life a living hell!



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