Sociopath’s are master storytellers. Their lies are often times so outrageous, but when they tell you in storytelling format, you sometimes believe them at the time. In my early post I mentioned how my socio asked
manynumerous questions about my past. And when i would ask him, he would give a vague answer or change the subject. We got to the point where now that he had my ‘profile’ built, he was willing to give me liesstories about his past. Beginning with his first marriage. He told me how he met this girl at work, they dated, and then she got pregnant. So he wanted to be a ‘stand-up guy’ and marry her. He forgot to mention to me that it was 4 years later when they got married. Then after 2 years or so, that marriage failed (because of the ex’s family)…*note: keep up and you will see the pattern of how it was always the other’s person’s fault. Then he told me about meeting his 2nd wife. He told me he was working in the BVI (British Virgin Islands) and came home to the states for vacation. While here on vacation he was on the internet and there was a banner that kept coming up “Round-trip Airfare to London for $500.” So he said he clicked on it, and sure enough that’s what he paid. So he bought the ticket (had never been to Europe before) and decided he was going there for a couple of weeks to ‘check it out’. Now, I’m a smart girl, and I have traveled extensively (and even to London etc) and have never paid $500. for a round-trip ticket overseas….but here again, the lies are so outrageous we tend to believe them in the storytelling. So he get’s to London and the next day he said he needed a hair cut?!?!?! ( i always get my hair done before a vacation, but hey, I’m female) He goes into a barber shop and the girl cutting his hair ultimately becomes his wife (kind of a storybook, sappy B movie don’t you think?? )…But he forgot to mention he met his future wife on an online dating site, and went to London to meet her…(kind of important detail he left out) . She moves from London to the BVI and he said he knew he ‘made a mistake after about a year and was going to ask her to leave when she handed him a pregnancy stick that was positive and he knew he was ‘trapped’. *note: he forgot to tell me that they had been trying to have a baby for almost 2 years because the wife was almost 40 and she wanted to have a child * He went on to tell me how Bi-Polar the ex is, how she didn’t work, didn’t clean, basically this was just a person sucking the life blood out of him, while carrying his child, how ‘paranoid’ she is, how she ‘can’t keep a job’, how she ‘cannot control money’ etc. And this is when i began to think ‘hmmm…this is what he said about wife number one~there is a pattern here’, but because I had already fallen victiminto his whirlwind of his charm, his compliments, all the things I listed in my previous post, I didn’t want to focus on the correlation (similarities) of his 2 failed marriages. I asked him ‘why would you pick 2 women who sound very similiar’ and of course he gave me a delusional dissertation about how he wanted to do the right thing by them, didn’t want to leave his children…blah, blah, blah. Sad thing is, they both filed for divorce because they ‘couldn’t wait to get away from him’. As I now do in life “Listen, But Verify” He is a master storyteller, and his liesstories about his marriages were both intriguing and hypnotic. When I did ask what i guess he thought were to many questions about both marriages, he would change the subject…..and then send bouquet after bouquet of flower’s with “hi babes” on the card. And once again, i’m thinking this is the greatest guy ever!
My socio and I spent hours and hours on the phone, talking and texting. When we were together, more hours and hours of
lies conversations. And I never questioned why after about 6:00pm, it was mostly just text…..more on that, in a later post. During this time I was diagnosed with breast cancer, and so began treatment with surgery planned in the next 5 weeks. My socio was acted just as devastated as me when i told him the news. I have never seen a grown man cry so often and show such faked compassion before. He said he wanted to go down this path with me and wouldn’t leave my side…
What i learned about sociopath’s regarding the ‘storytelling is’: they are master storytellers. They are delusional and believe what they are saying. If you question something they said, they will either attack you verbally and emotionally, or make you think your the crazy one and did ‘not listen’. They are poetic. My socio would send multiple text with poems he wrote. They come up with outrageous experiences they have had and go even further with exaggeration. And during this stage, as any normal human would do, we start to feel sorry for them. We have the ability to have compassion, and sympathize. They feed off of us. They want us to ‘hurt’ for them. This is all part of their master plan!