“It takes two to speak the truth…one to speak, and another to hear”
Not all pathological liars are sociopaths, but all Sociopaths are pathological liars. The difference between the two is one knows what he/she is doing, and the other just does not care. The sociopath lies are calculated and manipulative, and in the end someone always get’s hurts. But you can be assured, it will not be the sociopath.
Because a sociopath and/or narcissistic sociopath has no guilt or shame, they will say and do just about anything to obtain ‘sympathy’ or ‘pity’, material objects, even custody of children or whatever they are needing at the moment. And this is often done with lies, for which they cannot see the negative consequences their lies have. This is one of the most damaging aspects of dealing with a sociopath as they can make you feel like your “crazy” when in all reality it is them. Reputations and social standings are ruined because of these lies. Family ties and friendships are severed because of the pathological cruel lies by the sociopath.
When you catch a sociopath in a lie, and confront them, tell them ‘no, that’s not what you said’, or ‘no, that’s not what you did’ etc; they will then turn that into an accusation and make us believe we are the liar :-x. Or they will get very angry and defensive and become the ‘victim’ instead of the abuser. Which is so frustrating, as trying to reason with a compulsive pathological lying sociopath is like dealing with the devil 👿 you are not going to win. They have an incredible ability to not only lie, straight faced, and convincingly, but when caught, they can then cover that lie up with another lie. Sociopaths use multi-layer’s of lie’s. So it’s a viscous circle, that grows bigger and bigger. No matter how hard you try and reason with a sociopath even if you have proof of their lie….they will somehow manipulate the truth into just a bigger and deeper lie. This is what feeds them, they have such a low level of self-esteem, and are constantly portraying someone they are not. A sociopath is so adept at compulsive pathological lying that sometimes they are not even aware of what’s the truth or fiction. A Freudian Slip to a narcissist sociopath is the truth.
They lack remorse, and in the rare cases they
act remorseful, it’s only to gain something else. If you think you can ‘reason’ with, or, change a sociopath, you are fooling yourself. This behaviour, this lack of conscience, is who they are! No amount of tears you cry, or ‘pity’ you feel for them, has bearing. And to spend hours upon hours of trying to figure them out~will only cause more pain. Those of you who have been, and/or are, involved with a sociopath, know the depth of scars their lie’s have caused. It can make you question your own ‘worthiness‘ to them. But at the end of the day you are only ‘worthy’ of what they are needing for their own gain. Even though you can think about the beginning….the seduction, all of the charm, the ‘mimicking’, all of the ‘promises’ that were made. No where can you remember the compulsive pathological lying. And you may wonder…..where did you miss all the red flags? Why didn’t you see the lie’s? Because the sociopath made sure to progress the relationship quickly in the beginning, and most all of the attention was on you, they deflected your questions and kept focus on your wants, needs, desires etc. All the while feeding you lie, after lie after lie. Even though you have positive proof of their lies, you heart is not wanting to believe this is not the person you fell in love with. Sadly, this is in fact the very person.