In our everyday lives, we have to make decisions. What to wear to work, what to eat, decisions about the child/children, taking Vitamins and so on. All of these decisions are in the best interest of ourselves. So why is it you cannot make the decision to end the relationship with the Sociopath?
The first thing I want you to do is read THIS article. It talks about the RED FLAGS flying right in front of your eyes. So read that article, then come back to this one and finish reading.
So after you read the Red Flags and could put a √ check mark to most all of them, things start to make a little more sense of the type of person you are involved with. Now, read THIS. You will then for certain understand why you cannot make the decision about ending the relationship. Be it separation/divorce/break-up/parent-child etc.
You have read, and read, and read some more and your head is filled with chaos and confusion. You want to deny what you read and think “well, maybe the Sociopath has some of the traits but not all”. If you are searching the internet for answers to your dysfunctional/ mentally abusive, fucked up relationship, chances are, the person you are with is in fact a Sociopath. You can pray all you want for them to change, you can begged them to ‘listen’ to you, you can walk around the ever moving mine-field of their mental & emotional bombs, still hoping for them to change. You can endure their silent treatments. I will say this for the millionth time: A Sociopath will never, ever, EVER change. Period!
Okay, so now it’s decision time, in the best interest of yourself, your sanity, your peace! You have made the decision to leave. Here are a few things of what and what not to expect.
At a certain point in your life, it does not matter if you are 30 or 70, or somewhere in between, you have got to take back your mental well being! It’s not about ‘starting over’, it is about saving yourself from a life spent in HELL. Yes, the ‘connection’, the ‘love’ the ‘whatever’ you have with the Sociopath is unlike any you have ever had in your life. Reason being?Because you have never encountered someone who could silently and methodically mentally and emotionally destroy you~ simply to sustain their own self. I know this is so difficult for all of you to comprehend. I truly know where you are! I also know, that it takes minute by minute working up to hour by hour, then day by day to eventually heal from these vile people. Once you stop trying to make excuses for them, once you absolutely accept with 100% certainty that NOTHING you can say or do will change them, then you can easily do the DECISION TIME!
“If you care about what people think about you, you will end up being their slave. Reject and pull your own rope.” auliq ice