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Walking Thru The Fog

Imagine Fog….heavy, thick Fog. You can see it, but you cannot walk around it, over it, or run from it.

Sounds like being involved with a Sociopath right? I am using the correlation of Fog to a Sociopath, because if you really think about it, a Sociopath is just like Fog. No sustenance, no feeling, eventually dissipates, and does nothing for us.

When you are in the depths of the hellish relationship with a Sociopath, and even the aftermath of that hell; you’ll  find yourself in a different kind of ‘fog’. Your mind is cloudy, raging emotions, uncontrollable fear/anger/sadness/hopelessness. And the most damaging of all? The constant thoughts of the Ex. Wanting them to call or text. Telling you how sorry, not sorry  for hurting you, professing ‘LOVE’ and everything the Sociopath knows you want to hear.  You wait for that call because maybe you want to ‘call them out on what they have done’, or ‘beg them to come back’, even worse..‘forgive them’.

I will tell you, if you are searching the internet because you know there is something wrong with your relationship, or trying to figure out what happened to you, or what is wrong with my partner my first question would be: why do you want to be back with someone who has treated you so horribly? And I sometimes get the proverbial: because I LOVE them.  Just because YOU love/loved them, does not mean they HAVE to, SHOULD, or WILL love you. I know that sounds a bit harsh. And this is your reality check! The Narcissistic Sociopath that you had the misfortune of meeting is NOT going to love you, be kind, tell the damn truth, be faithful, be trustworthy, or be any of the characteristics you want in a partner. So when you say “because I LOVE them”. What do you actually love? Think about that? It is NOT love. It was in the beginning….what did it turn into?

It has turned into you searching for answers, searching for validation, searching for something or someone who can tell you exactly what is wrong! And that in and of itself should tell you, ‘I need to get away from this person’. But….there are kids involved, or financial reasons. Oftentimes it comes down to TRAUMA BOND,  No so easy to get away from the ‘fog’ right?

Eventually, in time, you will be able to. However, ONLY if you want it. Not because the Sociopath calls or text flowery bullshit words that makes you think ‘ok, this is the last time this will happen’. Or you find out they are back onto the online sociopath cesspool dating sites, and you confront them and then the flowery bullshit promises ‘I won’t do it again’. The back and forth of war with words, blocking and unblocking on your phone, stalking on social media. How is any of that LOVE???? I call that Lethal Love, you can read about it HERE

How many times do you need to walk in a perpetual state of Fog? Why do you let consuming thoughts of Karma rule the day? Yes you’re angry, I get that. Hurt? Abundantly so! When you take all the trauma, hurt, and consuming non-beneficial thought’s, that is what will keep you in this thick, heavy, dense fog. Nothing makes sense. Anxiety and depression have set in. Isolation, feelings that nobody understands {they probably do not}. Trapped. With a Narcissistic Sociopath, you are the one who can control whether or not to be in The Fog.

“Don’t let the agony, regret, or fog of yesterday blind you to the fact that each new day carries with it a plethora of opportunities to move your life into the right direction.”   steve maraboli

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side notes:

-if you are new to my website, I suggest you read these posts. TRAITS and RED FLAGS

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