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Sociopath And Privacy

Privacy online

Sociopath’s and Narcissist are experts at hiding their true identities.  And because they are in a constant state of perpetual motion of keeping the ‘supply source’ going, they take advantage of every available avenue.

Some of these people will have online dating sites, other’s become involved with one (or more) people at work, still other’s can be out in any type of social setting to meet their next victim.  And there are other’s that use social media, ie: Facebook, SnapChat etc. The supply source is endless for people with  Antisocial Personality Disorder’s.

Since a sociopath  will have one or more of the above, there is a great need for privacy. So as to make sure we do not suspect, that they do in fact have one or more victim’s, they will go to great length’s to keep us in the dark. They will change their password’s constantly. Their cell phone will be like an extension permanently attached to their hand. They will be so convincing  in their lies about who was on the phone  (*note, they seem to have a lot of ‘nobody’s’ that call 🙂 LOL.) Some have their bank cards replaced  {as theirs is unusually compromised, frequently!!} They will rarely, if ever, leave their wallets far from their side.  Once you figure out how extremely private the Sociopath is with his/her life, and you start to ask questions, they will try and instill paranoia in you. 

This paranoia is done on a multi-level fashion. It may start out if you asked ‘I saw an email from a dating site’, their response could be: “oh, that wasn’t for me, it must have been sent by mistake. Or, “Don’t be silly, you know I don’t go on those sites”. Then if you question further the next level of paranoia is directed at you:

  • accusing you of being deceiving and/or lying
  • lying directly to you, and when you question that lie, they then turn it around to ‘why are you questioning ME’, acting the victim then.
  • telling you ‘all his friends and family’ think your crazy
  • making cutting remarks about ‘YOUR’ paranoia. 
  • they will make you feel like ‘everyone’ is on his side
  • they will blame an open web page on a friend and ask ‘why are you accusing me’? When in all reality you probably just asked and not accused. 

Once the Sociopath thinks he has set the paranoia in you, they then carry on with their outside supply source. Since they are aware that you might be on to them, they will go to even greater lengths to be private. The cell phone now may be on silent all the time , if they have a laptop, chances are it won’t be brought into the home anymore. They will be even more vague about their whereabouts, and if asked, once again that will be turned around on you as if YOU have something to hide.  Remember, their privacy is of utmost importance to them, as Sociopath’s fear being exposed.

While you may want to question them over and over about the above, chances are, you will never get a direct and honest answer. I equate this to being one step ahead of the Sociopath. Do your homework! If you find him on a dating site, print the information and confront ask him directly! He will however, most likely deny it is him. Or give you a litany of lies excuses as to why he is on there. The best way to deal with Sociopath’s and Privacy is to realize, you will never be privy to their other supply source. You have already established he is a liar. And by digging more, it will end up making you fall further into their spinning world of bullshit. 

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12 Responses to “Sociopath And Privacy”

  1. Nevaeh

    Haha, this is so true. Also listen to what they are accusing you of because it is exactly what they are doing.
    Don’t be fooled they are transparent as glass you just need to look past their nutjob accusations.


  2. LuLuBelle66

    Found his ” dating” profile on an adult site. His face, his name, his email, his age, his birthday, etc…he lied said someone else created the profile. Really? Nothing but lies and half truths. He has invaded my privacy in so many ways. Constantly accusing me of hiding things. Total insanity. My advice is to find strength and do whatever you need to get out. Cut all ties. Be independent need nothing from them ever.


  3. Jody

    Yes again!!! When I got so fed up and my radar had flown up that something wasn’t right I’d ask, and usually she would tell me I’m very unattractive when I’m insecure. She would say,” that really turns me off because when we met you were so confident!! I’m seriously losing interest in you when you act like I would ever cheat on you!!” And then there was the silent ringtone, constant new guy friends on Facebook!! Two months ago she started using a passcode in her iPhone!! Guys from work would text her at all hours of the night, and all explained away as just needing more guy friends. But if I had female friends right away it was, “are you fucking that slut?” I know she went through my phone but if I ever thought of doing that it would have been the end of life.


    • ShiningStar


      Yes, Yes and Yes! Seven months after the relationship is done and what I now know is disgusting.

      Mine did all of the above, multiple affairs, gang-bangs, threesome’s, tinder. She seduced everyone around me behind my back in an attempt at not only gaining control over my life but for the duper’s delight in making me look like a fool. We were together for 2 and a half years and engaged to boot. Truthfully I knew for almost a year she was cheating on me but I couldn’t bring myself to face it. I was in love and was duped into believing if I could only get healthier and be more, everything would work out. The truth is the toxicity was keeping me physically and mentally sick and she knew it. Not only did she know it, she was orchestrating it. The abuse was literally killing me.

      When I’d question her about cheating she was brilliant. She was so vigilant about defending her own morality. Also the abuse that would follow a confrontation worked to shut me down every time.

      My P told me the saddest story the first night we met about a serious horrific violation in her life in which she took an almost unprecedented moral high ground. This also helped as every time I was positive she was cheating I’d mentally reference the outstanding and true character that she sold me on. Truthfully I had yet to witness it. Now that I’ve studied psychopathology to some degree I realize this is a very common technique they use. They often feed the prospective victim a horrific sob story to test there empathy level. She was sizing me up.

      She even got her kids involved early, who she used as pawns to show how serious she was about her intent. I thought hey her intentions must be pretty pure if she’s bringing her kids into the picture. I thought I met my dream girl.

      She love bombed me good. I kept waiting for this horrible monster that eventually surfaced to go away and for the gracious, cosmic queen I had once met to resurface. All I got was Miss Beast. Now I see when she was kind of generous she was only setting me up for the fall, the inevitable devaluation. She duped me from the start, I now know she was after many things including my most precious jewel. ( I can’t explain this but it is indeed metaphoric)

      Everything was a lie from the start I was nothing more than entertainment. The relationship was a hoax.

      And for those of you that don’t realize this, some not all have a methodical plan in place right down to the discard from the very start. Some actually do this for sport. It is social, spiritual and sexual sadism at it’s very darkest.

      Once they have what they want there gone or they’ll make it so impossible for you to love them that you end up leaving. Broken and disillusioned.

      Excellent observations on cheating, mine would even take her phone to the bathroom. Lots of weird calls. Pesky Aunt From Out West! ALWAYS, ALWAYS calling. And that crazy sister calling in the middle of the night about exercise and proper nutrition lmao

      Through hard work, and a little help from The Holy Spirit I got an inside look into her universe. She was cheating from the beginning.

      They often will pretend to hate the person there cheating with or arrange for you to meet them in a casual setting. Pretending of course that they themselves are complete strangers. This is called Duper’s Delight and it gives them a great deal of fulfillment. The greater the humiliation the deeper sense of satisfaction they feel. If they have a particular jem there cultivating they may just keep that deeply hidden. Although the burning desire to mock you may just override reason-ability and they may start to hint or leave you clues. They love intrigue. As everything to a true psychopath is a game. I got to host a special Christmas Party last year for her kids and 2 of her lovers. Isn’t that special 🙂 As there was other family present I was completely duped. They had the funnest evening of there lives!!! In fact I’m pretty sure she even gave the one guy my intended Christmas Present as an additional perk!

      A matter of fact I was deceived into believing I was in a relationship. Heck we were engaged. Right after I proposed she took off with some guy on a sex weekend. I only discovered that after we broke up. Actually if I had found ANY of this out during the relationship I would have been gone in a heart beat. She was a master player. And I guess relationship isn’t the right word because what we had was pure fiction.

      I also must say she even pretended to be much less successful than she was. Also feigned a lesser intellect. She is brilliant and a world class player. I believe each “relationship” to her is a new game of dominance. A new con, challenge or project. Whatever the case may be.

      She got away with a lot of stuff because she used her children as cover. She lived an hour and a half away and pretended to have a lot more custody than she obviously did. She spend a lot of nights she was supposedly with her youngest engaging in affairs, flings and sexual escapades. Lots of hidden partying and drugs as well. She just pretended to smoke a little weed. This was a gross misrepresentation of what she was really up too.

      She lived a complete double life right down to the utterly unspeakable. Cheating on those she was cheating on.

      Of course promising each and every one of her “trophies” that they were the only one’s.

      They tell you exactly what you want to hear. They become exactly who you want them to be. They will mirror your intellect, morality and even your personal taste. At least in the first few predatory stages.

      Expect the unexpected, it’s usually far worse than you would have even imagined. If you absolutely must know the truth, brace yourself. It will be a bumpy ride.

      I’ve yet to hear of another situation as bad as mine though. She actually intentionally abused me, hoping above all hopes that in the end I’d simply die (suicide) whatever. Failing that I strongly believe she was trying to do me physical harm.

      As far as trying to push me over the edge to self harm, she tried to accomplish this through nothing shy of mental rape. Cognitive Dissonance, Gaslighting, Word Salads, Projection, Compulsive lying and serial cheating. Talk about a final discard. That’s got to be the kicker lol

      There is so much more I could say but I will not reveal all I know publicly. I have protected myself and confided in some very well established, credible men in my community in case I “fall off that crazy train” when the security camera’s don’t happen to be on. Her flying monkeys were close, too close for comfort.

      I wouldn’t recommend digging as deep as I did for your own sanity. In my case it was imperative to ensure my own personal safety. My own “insurance policy” sort of speak. I even have some brilliant illustrations to go along with the plot. Given over to a very reliable source. But I have no intention of waging a personal war against a female psychopath. Just trying to pick up the pieces and stay alive. Like I said, I have my insurance policy in place.

      Oh and smear campaigns. Skies the limit with what these people are capable of. There are venomous and malicious to the core. Prepare for the worse.

      If you can leave. No contact for your personal well being is a must. Protect yourself at all costs.

      Expect stalking. Expect your phone and computer may be hacked. In my case she even hacked another family member’s phone as to keep tabs on our coming and going’s. communications etc.

      Also the smarter the P is the harder it will be to prove. Surround yourself with credible people who know your character. It will come out. And do NOT, I repeat do NOT fight back or engage them in any way. I have kept this impersonal and not revealed locations, names etc. in an effort to protect myself against my P as I know she reads many of these forums and even posts as victims from time to time for duper’s delight.

      Psychopaths love to pose as healers and victims. Be careful who you connect with on these sites as everyone may not be who they appear too.

      I know I may seem paranoid and absurd but what I am saying has been my living reality. If you ever deal with a psychopath of this magnitude you will soon understand.

      If you are a person with faith pray for them and get other’s to do them same.

      You are beautiful, you are worth it. Your life is worth something. Things can always change. Time does heal. Don’t give up. And lastly be kind to you.

      I have lost 100 pounds in the last seven months since our break up. I had no hope and gave up on caring for myself in the last few years. I literally became a caged animal.

      I am now exercising, reading, involved in church and starting to pursue a new life. When I met my psychopath I was in a downward spiral which made me very easy prey. I have been on a disability for the last few years and am starting to work and pursue living once again. One minute, one hour and one day at a time. We will overcome and have the empathy and understanding to make a better world, with EYES WIDE OPEN!

      And lastly to my most precious Jewel, despite everything. I love you unconditionally.

      Thank you for your forum and the opportunity to share


  4. Robyn

    I remember how vague they are with the details of their ‘social lives’, but they make it their business to know everything about yours. They demand addresses of everyone you know, last names, and if you ask for the same?
    Yep, that same old vagueness or they simply don’t answer your concerns, if you press it, then they become abusive also.
    Ultimately, they know everything and everyone that is in your life, and you know almost zero about theirs.
    How I don’t miss that crap!!!


  5. robinvalinoti

    When I confront my husband, he yells at me for “snooping” and refuses to discuss the issue. I pray for strength to walk away from this insanity


    • Tela

      Thank you Robin for your comment. I to was yelled at, scream at for ‘snooping’, I always told him I ‘wouldn’t have to if you knew how to tell the truth’. I will pray for strength for you! It’s a very difficult {at best} relationship to be in!



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