On May 15, 2013, at 6:58 PM, Greg wrote:
I want to tell you something that I didn’t want to tell you while I was home because I didn’t want any stress or confusion in front of A.Tela is a woman I met a few months ago. We have been talking and dating. It’s hard to tell you this because in a normal situation you would not be living with me. But I’m in love with her. Yes, she is ill, but Im not focused on that at all. She is a beautiful person. I just thought you ought to know. Sorry to tell you like this, but I don’t need any stress. I will be selling the house by at least August 1st. So you need to find a place like we’ve already talked about. I don’t need any texts or phone calls or questions about this please.
Sent from my iPhone
On May 15, 2013, at 7:26 PM, Scom> wrote:
First of all I am so very happy for you. I kind of guessed that and i am really glad you finally told me. I am also sorry that she is ill too. I truly hope she gets well soon. I want more than anything to move out. I don’t have any savings of a substantial amount or trust me i would be long gone. I really am going to need some assistance from you to get out in time.
You really had nothing in the world to worry about I had hoped for a long time that you would find someone.
Sent from my iPhoneFrom: Greg
Date: May 15, 2013, 7:59:43 PM CDT
Subject: Re:Thank you for understanding. There is no rush for you to get out ok. I just want out of Odessa. I’m really leaning toward San Antonio and I want you to move there too. We can move all of our stuff on the same truck. And you know I will help you with the finances. I’m going to up your child support to $1000.00 per month like I said I would. I’ve just got get this lien laid off so I can move too. And you will get half of the profit from the house. Just try to get a job there and find a place ok. I’m looking too.GregSent from my iPhone
These email exchanges ‘appear’ to be two normal individuals discussing the future. However, there are so so so many lies within my Sociopaths. Not only was he blatantly lying to me (“my ex-wife lives in San Antonio”), ummm nope! She lives under the same roof. Then he tell’s her they can ‘move their things together to San Antonio”. Nope again! He just barked that order that she would move with him. He had this grand illusion that he and I would buy a home in San Antonio and nowhere was is brought up “oh hey, my ex-wife will be moving with me”. She, by the way, had no desire to move to San Antonio as she has her career, and their daughter in school in Odessa. Once again, this is so classic Narcissistic Sociopath, always having other supply sources, or other people to fall back on. And their unwillingness to discuss something. Everything they do is purposeful, never open for discussion, and solely for personal gain.This is mental manipulation at it’s finest. When the Sociopath decided he no longer needed or wanted the ex-wife for supply, this is how disposed of her.
It is a shitty feeling when all the lies, inconsistencies, deceiving is confirmed by an ex. And because we have opened up our minds and heart’s, both of these have to try and understand firstly, why, and secondly, how to deal with them. This is why we have such difficulty in letting go. We keep waiting for the TRUTH from them, we keep hoping they will respect us enough to be honest with us. And time after time we are let down. If your Narcissist, Sociopath has an Ex you can speak with, this will help validate what you are going through (or have been through). All of us want validation, and all of us want to know, we will be okay. They have lived it, and survived it. And so can you! 🙂
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”―