A Healing & Informative Site About Narcissistic Sociopaths

A Face To This Website ~

 

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 Welcome to my site. Grap a cup of coffee, or pour a glass of wine and enjoy my post’s. Comments and feedback are encourage, as your input will help other’s in the same place you are in. My name is pronounced Tee-La, not tela as in phone 🙂 

If relationship’s with a Narcissistic Sociopath ended like ‘normal’ ones, {is there such a normal ending to a relationship of any kind?}, there would be a lot of therapist & counselors out of a job- When a relationship ends with a Sociopath you are left feeling completely washed out….emotionally, mentally, sometimes financially & physically. You have no direction, you feel lost, alone & your thoughts are all over the map. Completely normal! 

I have my Master’s (M.S.) degree in psychology. I did not major in English and Literature, therefore my writing’s may not be perfectly punctuated {or even make sense}, nonetheless, these are my own words and experiences, unless otherwise ‘cited’. I was personally and intimately involved with a Narcissistic Sociopath, yes! Even with all of my education and career. So I truly understand how cunning, manipulative and evil these individuals are.

I may not have all the answers to questions you have, but what I do have is sympathy, compassion, understanding and empathy for you and what you have or/are going through. And I will help you as best I can with any questions you have.

If you are a ‘self-diagnosed’ or even professionally diagnosed Sociopath I will not tolerate comments in an attacking way, derogatory, or self-serving. This site is not particularly for Sociopaths, but for people who have been victimized and/or abused by them. If you feel you can contribute to this site via comments, please use discretion as this information is to be helpful, not abusive.

If you would like to contact me, please feel free to send me an email at: TaelaHill@mail.com I do however, expect a donation as I devote a LOT of personal time to this website and also to your emails. My replies to your emails are strictly confidential. I will advise you, with my Professional Education as well as my own personal experience with a Sociopath.

Please do not send a one or two sentence email with something as “I just broke up with someone and I think she is a Sociopath”, or “I do not if the person I was with was a Sociopath.” I do not know that either. SO if you send an email, put as much information that is going to help me, to help you.

 

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Here is an abbreviated version of my bucket list:

  • Visit Palo Duro Canyon
  • make a social change starting with one person
  • visit ireland  ~ done
  • pay it forward ~ done! I do this often
  • visit Ibiza
  • road trip coast to coast
  • adopt a dog from the human society  ~ done! his name is Sylvester , pure MUTT, but i ♥ him
  • run in a half marathon
  • spend one new year’s eve in new york

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80 Responses to “A Face To This Website ~”

  1. Wayne

    Tee-La . Just wanted to say my bad on the miss spelling of your name in my previous comments. Thank you sincerly for creating this website. Been a major life saver for me personally, and very well put together . My hat goes off too you. Cant say thanks enough.

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  2. Free

    My ex sociopath was literally the most gorgeous man I had ever laid eyes on. He came on strong with love bombing, ring shopping, and moving me in right away. I met his son and instantly became his step mommy. His ex wife was a “cheating psycho” and I thought what a fool to let this man go. How could she be so stupid? Lol little did I know the joke was on me.

    We had the most intense passion, he called and texted me around the clock, he would cry to me professing his love, we would slow dance in our bedroom, we spent every waking moment together. We even prayed at dinner and before bed. He told me I was the most amazing woman he’s ever met and more beautiful than anyone. He was so incredibly affectionate and attentive. I honestly believed I met my soul mate. God had answered my prayers.

    Slowly I noticed changes. The silent treatment, zero boundaries, withholding affection, accusing me of meeting men for lunch. This was all so confusing as he knew how loyal I was. He would go through my FB emails, my IG search history and would read my text messages. I thought maybe it was because he loved me so much and was so afraid to lose me.

    He started becoming verbally abusive calling me “trailer trash”, a “slob”, and the “C” word. I would leave for a weekend to get away from the abuse and he accused me of abandoning him. He would say he needed space but then when I left he would say I didn’t love him because I kept abandoning him. He started gaslighting me and even strangled my dog twice.

    His mother and him have a very strange codependent relationship and she thinks he hung the moon. She always saw him as the victim. She would buy his groceries and I started paying all the other bills. He was so cheap!

    Sex became expected or else I would be emotionally punished and given the silent treatment. Nothing I did was ever good enough and I found myself trying so hard to please him and make him happy by cleaning more, always being available, buying gifts, redecorating our place. But nothing was good enough.

    People at his job think he is an incredible man. I noticed however he had no friends. He only wanted to spend time with me, his son and his mother. Ultimately both of his baby mothers took both of his children out of state to never return. They both left with his kids! Once again he is the victim and I’m being drug through a custody battle. The stress was overwhelming. He began pulling away, sleeping with his back to me, completely uninterested and just cruel. I was devastated and turning into a shell. Crying and confused constantly.

    He then kicked me out and within a few weeks was already in a new relationship plastering it all over social media. I wanted to die. This current girl is someone he dated briefly in the past and now they are gallivanting around (he never took me anywhere) and professing their love on FB. I blocked him. I’m left shattered, betrayed, heartbroken and depressed.

    I’m in therapy but don’t feel much better. It’s only been a month since my final discard but this is the most painful thing I have ever been through.

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  3. Carla Sidiropoulos

    I’ve found someone. I’ve found someone to talk to about my relationship for the past 3 years that has destroyed me. I’ve figured out he’s a narcissist but I don’t know to what degree. I know he can’t love me because he can’t feel. Only for himself. No empathy no compassion no nothing and he destroyed me.
    My name is Carla. Hi

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  4. Stel

    Heyo so i already posted a little info about my socio boyfriend and his two housemates who helped me get out of the situation, its only day 2 of being broken up and i feel numb… I havent cried or felt any emotion at all i dont know if im in shock or if its going to be worse in a few days. We were together nearly a year and he became my greatest crutch in life. I was in the psychiatric care ward last week due to mental problems from the time i was young, before i went in my socio boyfrined was the only
    Thing to keep me alive… Literally… I nearly killed myself in front of him twice and he restrained me to stop doing what i was doing and calmed me down in the proper way… But at the same time i realise he had me under his wing and abused me in many ways and compulsively lied to manipulate my life and his two housemates lives… He always apologised for his actions though after making me feel guilty… At times he would say he is the fucked up one who caused lots of issues and would actually say sorry i dont know if thats a typical trait of socios.. But at other times he would blame me whole heartedly and make it out like i was ruining his life… I feel like he was the only person who ever actually got me even though he isnt normal… Ive never had trust for males ive been screwed over my fair share of times, i never trusted him from day one and he knew that and put months on end into winning me
    Over.. He was the first person i ever trusted. I have lots of family issues i lived with my grandparents until the psych ward incident where they kicked me out. I have had to go to my other grandparents and my dad. My dad is also a sociopath and is trying to manipulate
    Me in the same way my boyfriend did… I dont know how to escape these people and im not sure how my mental state will be in a couple of days i currently feel like i have no emotion it was all such a shock

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  5. Dee

    Is it normal to have more bad days than good even six months after being discarded? I still think back to the horrible things he called me and said to me and wonder will I ever get his voice out of my head. Will I ever get his face out of my head? His look of disgust when he just called me the most horrible things. I hate the way he has made me feel. I hate thinking that he is playing happy families with his ex again while I still fall apart. I hate having to put on a happy face every day because no one understands exactly what he put me through. Honestly I just wish I wasn’t here

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    • Tela

      Hello Dee. Yes, it is very normal to have more ‘bad day’s than good’. However………it is also up to you to start putting the toxic relationship and man out of your head. I know that is almost impossible. I said ‘almost’, but you can!
      Let him put his masquerade face back on and pretend that ‘happy family’ facade. In time, that relationship will implode, and the woman he is with now will be left feeling exactly as you are. The horrible things he said to you, are just HIS words. They do not define WHO YOU ARE! You are a woman who went through one of the worst experiences a person can with a Sociopath. You were mentally and emotionally abused. That does not just go away. It takes time, a LOT of time. And it takes you to start believing in yourself, stop re-thinking the ugly words said to you.
      There are thousands who feel just like you do about having to put that happy face on, while your falling apart inside. However, each day you are making progress. I know you don’t think that you are, but you truly are! Hang in there, reach out!

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  6. phonse1949

    Thanks. I founce myself “stumbling upon” this site frequently so I bookmarked it and joined a mail out list. ..I think.

    I am in recovery from marriage to a sociopath who has cus today of our son. It’s been 5 years but she has made those years very difficult. I have been trying to protect and “preserve” our son but incurred a lot of damage and expense. Things got the better of me…I was so worried about him growing up damaged (he was not quite 3 when she took ooff; he is 7.5 now) that I depleted myself trying to deal with her BS…got sick…lost my job…bankruptcy.

    It’s getting worse….she is engaging in blatent alienating behaviors and I can see the impact. I know she uses my son as a weapon to hurt me but I could not abandon him. Court and children’s services are useless. …incredibly biased and my ex is a skilled actress. Noone will believe the reality…even with evidence.

    I have had enough. I have to focus on rebuilding and self care. I am considering going away for a couple of months..I have not been on a vacation in 5 years and feel like I have been on the front line that whole time. I know I need to do this….but I feel like it is abandoning my son and aiding the alienation process.

    I also think that it might be a good reminder to my ex of the things I do, the breaks she can take, weekends off…if I just disappear for a couple of months. Again I feel afraid and guilty about doing so but if I stay on my current path I won’t have much of a future.

    I’m thinking my boy is resilient ..a couple of months apart at his age, when he spends much of his days at school/camp/ daycare, is not that big a deal to him. It could restore his Daddy to the man he knew me to be and wants to see again.

    What do you think? I don’t want to’desert’ my son but I’ve done everything I can and I have not got much left…but I’m afraid of a negative impact on my boy…even of my ex taking her frustration out on him…

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  7. Vanessa G

    I just found this page and I have been on and off “of course” with my EX NARC for 4 years & have made the path to Sociopath Hell hopefully to develop a permanent “off switch”. Within 5 mins into one of your articles, I feel my sanity has returned (raises hands). Truly in love with all of the articles I have read thus far. Purely joyed NOW knowing I am normal and shi** I’ve dealt with was NOT my fault. It’s day 5 of my anniversary and hoping to keep that number to infinity and lose track of it one day 🙂 Thank you for this website being a nurse I diagnosed the ex narc myself however was at a lost on how to deal with my own head ….. This site has truly made me feel “human” again in such a short period of time. Something I haven’t been able to accomplish alone. So thank you a definite pay it forward

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  8. Cynthia

    Thank you for this wonderful resource in navigating Sociopths/Narcissists in our lives.
    Your insight is spot on and is extremely helpful.
    Your post about Flying Monkeys was particularly helpful for me.
    A Sociopath parent will use the kids as the Flying Monkeys in an effort to smear and alienate the abused spouse both during the marriage and especially after the break up (especially if the kids are not the biological offspring of the abused). Abused parents would be wise to read this blog in order to brace themselves for the fallout of having allowed a Sociopath into their life in the first place … I used to call my ex husband’s youngest and oldest kids his minions but Flying Monkey is by far more appropriate ! Also.. I agree that the learning of this wicked behavior takes place by early twenties…my once sweet little son (ages 8-11..I didn’t know him until age 8)) is now a carbon copy of his sociopath father and the youngest girl is already demonstrating these traits ( although she was always self serving , constantly lying and envious, she expresses extreme disregard for others now and is completely lacking in empathy) . Needless to say I see jail time for both of these young obvious sociopaths. What is remarkable is that the middle child is the antithesis of a narcissist…kind, sweet, compassionate….all very interesting… Thank you!!

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    • Tela

      Thank you Cynthia for your comment. Sociopath parent’s always in some form or fashion use their children as flying monkey’s, or as I said in THIS they use them as Pawn’s.
      And yes, the learned behaviour is in place before their early twenties. To many people are under the misconception that Sociopaths are born a Sociopath. NO! That is not the case at all. I hope you have been able to heal from the abuse of your ex-Sociopath husband!

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    • Gary Haberny

      This is a great resource . I knew very early on that my mistake was clearly very different emotionally but still tried to make it work . That was my fault not hers.
      She simply does not have the ability to think like the other 99% of the world and I have to grasp that and forgive her. Her own hell is never knowing what it’s like to love or to truly be loved. I am trying not to spend a moment of my time thinking about this but the entire ” fraud ” portion of this has me not trusting anyone .

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      • Tela

        Gary, it is very normal not to trust anyone at this point in your life. No, she does not and will never have the ability to ‘think like other’s…….’ remember, she was NOT born a Sociopath. Rather learned behaviour, some incident{s} that happened in her formative year’s. Just know, that you will not be her only victim. Nothing will change her.

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  9. Chris

    Hi Tela,

    . I’m having a very difficult time turning the final corner on my situation. Like everything else, it is hard to put into words what I’m experiencing. There has been such complete emotional destruction, not to mention the ensuing forms if destruction……namely financial. At the present, I’m on the eve of being evicted a second time in two years. Its embarrassing. I have let down the people who have helped me through this process. Now, my problems have extended to my family and friends because I have not made good on being able to repay the help. That’s the worse feeling. A close second is the legal / financial situation I’m in. I am buried in child support commitments that are gonna eventually land me in jail. I’ve been paralyzed by overwhelming circumstances,…..and for a lack of a better description have been depressed so much so that my finances have gone completely down the tubes. Destruction all around. Now the other shoe has dropped. I just don’t see the situation ever getting better.

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    • Tela

      Chris, I understand that currently you see no way out of your situation. As you said you are ‘paralyzed by overwhelming circumstances’. The very first thing you need to do TODAY is, stop looking backwards!!!!!! Get out a piece of paper and write down, in order, the list of priorities. Number one being how to get back on your feet financially. If it is having to work 3 jobs, then do it!!! Then after that, what is the next priority and so on. As far as your mental & emotional destruction~ that will take a long, long time to recover from. A very long time. I don’t know if you are still in touch with your ex, or if you have children with her, I strongly suggest the only communication is to be about the children and nothing more. If there are no children with her, then you have got to block all means of contact~ or you will continue to be in the state you are. Be honest with your friends and family about what is going on. Have them read this website to get a better understanding of Female Sociopaths. You cannot run from your problems, face them head on!!!

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  10. Moya

    Thanks for liking my poems/blog. People often ask me why I vent the way I do….they just can’t seem to grasp how important these support networks are! I really appreciate your website and your insight into the horror we call sociopathy. Keep doing what you do….

    – Jason (Moya/Jayrbee)

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    • Tela

      Thank you Jason~ I wouldn’t necessarily say you ‘vent’, I read your posts as the brutally honest words coming from your soul! ❤

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  11. Miral

    Dear Regina, My ex did the big romance with me prior to mrriaage, and had all my family and associates believing that he adored me . Even the Jehovah Witnesses that canvassed our street weekly were given big lectures by him on how lucky he was to have found me and how much he loved me.Gradually, subtley, it all began to change.He told me it must have been my teenage sons when my jewellry disappeared.He claimed they must have pawned it, that is despite them being too young (under 18) to use a Pawn shop where I.D. has to be presented before you can pawn anything.When money went missing he claimed my sons may have been going through my handbag.They had never taken money like that and certainly were not in need of my cash as they each had part time jobs to earn their own pocket money and did not spend all they earnt.He gradually began criticising me in front of my sons when I tried to get them to do their nightly chore of washing the evening meals dishes, or if I requested they clean their own rooms on the weekend.He interfered every time I was correcting any of my sons.I had raised them singlehanded and done an excellent job teaching them to be self sufficient and to assist around the home by cleaning up their own mess and being responsible reliable people.I had always insisted on mutual respect between my sons, and by them, for myself, as well as reciprocal respect from me, for my sons as fellow human beings.My ex gradually changed that status quo by preventing me from keeping the usual routine and interrupting me even to the point of holding me tightly by the wrist, physically restraining me, so I could not walk into the loungeroom and speak to my sons, any time I tried to remind the boys to do their alloted and reasonable chores.despite me telling him several times not to hold me by the wrist like that as it triggered bad memories of past domestic violence, he kept doing this to me and I was not physically strong enough to remove his hand from my wrist and would have to stand still while he lectured me on why I should not make my sons do their chores.My young sons became very disrespectful to the point of being bluntly rude in the way they spoke to me, which then deteriorated to abusive and derogatory remarks and swear words.The ex violently assaulted me when I discovered his theft of all of my ID papers and embezlement from the equity of my home, he was barred from living in my home or coming near me by a Court awarded Violence Restraining Order.It took almost 6 months for my sons to recognise they had been coached to act abusively towards me, and to return to their previous respectful and loving attitudes.It was a big learning curve for us as we had to first recognise and identify the insidious and subtle, gradual erosion of our family relationships by his tactics.He had been so clever at his gradual erosion tactics that we had initially been unaware of the damage he had been doing to the fabric of our family.He fostered resentment in my sons against me by making them think that women did not know what guys need and want.He criticised my usual structure of everyone pulling their fair share of weight and taking responsibility for their own room and their own possessions, which was a training system for when they eventually left home and had to cope alone.When my two youngest sons left home they clearly realised how much I used to do for them and look after them, and they began to comprehend how much our relationship had been sabotaged by the ex.It takes time to repair damaged relationships like that, but with patience, mutual respect, and honesty, they can be restored.Some sociopaths hit you like a Mack truck with a full load and the damage is done quickly, is easily recognisable, and full on, with devastating results.Some sociopaths take the long path and bide their time.They seem to delight in deceiving everyone around you as they close in on their prey.The damage they do, tends to create self doubts and make you question wether you did something wrong.I found that friends and family would not listen or believe me when I began to see flaws in the ex and tried to discuss these observations with them.They were conned by him, into believing that I was dwelling on the past bad mrriaage and that the ex loved me so much and was troubled that I seemed to be unable to put my sad past behind me .He had been spreading such stories behind my back, long before I ever saw the first slip of his mask.My older children were admonishing me for doubting him in any way, ( but they did not live with us and did not see the small slips of the mask that preceded the final violent assault upon me).I wish you all the best and hope you recover to become a stronger and more knowledgable woman. GOD Bless.

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    • Bella Malwinoski

      Dear God, This sounds so familiar.The deceptiveness and the actual delight in pulling the wool over everyone’s eyes. By the time mine was finished with me I was such an emotional basket case that I didn’t come across as making sense to anyone;especially since all I had done (prior to the discard/all hell breaking loose period was sing this man’s praises),Because of what he did to me I was being stalked and harassed by strange depraved looking men and when I initially told him that men were watching me and following me he told me that I was crazy(the whole time he had been setting me up and filming and recording me)sick,sick,sick.Do all of these disordered individuals follow the same instruction manual?I’m sorry for all of your grief;you sound like a very strong person who did a fine job of raising your sons.God bless you

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  12. Sophie

    I feel so ashamed of what has happened to me. I am well educated and have an executive position. I have been involved with what I believe is a narcissist sociopath for over seven years. I met him on line. The first three years we saw each other on and off so I had no idea of what he was really like. I thought something was off and even asked if he was married. He used to say no, that he had been in a seven year relationship with someone before we met, but that she had cheated on him and it was over, that he was just busy with his corporate job. In the fourth year of knowing him we started an intimate relationship. Interestingly, the night I was going to quit things with him for good was the first night we had sex. During that fourth year we were both in high power jobs and didn’t have a lot of time to spend together – we would see each other about once a week. So I didn’t have time to really notice that many things didn’t make sense. I never met his friends… We would make plans to meet his mother and brother (who has down syndrome by the way) and they would fall through at the last minute. We would make plans to meet and he would cancel at the last minute or not show up. All attributed to his job. He would call me at all hours from his office number so I had no reason to doubt him. We would spend hours on the phone from his house number. He would call to check in with me from his cell. He would show up at my house during the middle of the night saying that he just came straight from the office (and he would call me from there before coming over). The fifth year into the relationship he started to get sick. He had told me that he was born with an incurable hereditary kidney disease and that he needed a kidney transplant. I was worried and wanted to do whatever was needed. He asked that I get tested for a kidney transplant and I tried but was told that I couldn’t because I was taking hypertension meds at the time. When I told him I did not qualify he told me – I am doomed. I felt so bad for him and just tried to support him as best as I could. In the meantime, he continued with the working late nights and sometimes now I would not hear from him for days or his voice mail would be full. He would text back sometimes with I’m in a meeting or call you soon. I forgave his lack of attention and disappointment each time. A few months after I told him I was not able to get tested for a transplant, he called me up one night that he was coming over. I didn’t think anything of it. I was just happy I was going to see him. He came over and told me that he had something to tell me that there was a friend from his past that was a kidney match for him, but that he had to marry her for the kidney. I was appalled! It was unethical to me, yet he was so convincing. He said that he didn’t want to marry her, but that he would do anything for a kidney. And I told him I understood he needed to do whatever he needed to do to live. He cried, I cried. He told me that life was unfair, that why couldn’t it be me instead of her, that I was his natural mate, that our lives were ruined, but that nothing would change between us, and we then had sex – sealing the deal. There has been much more in between then. But I will just say that in the sixth year he lied to me about having an operation. He said he wasn’t going to have it, but he did. Unbeknown to me, he even called me from the hospital room and we had phone sex. When he finally told me, he said he didn’t want to worry me. I asked him who was with him during the operation and he said no body – that he didn’t want anyone with him. I told him he lied to me and he said to my face yes, I lied and will do it again too. I was stunned, but let it go yet again. Later that same year, I found out there was a woman he had lived with and she had pictures of them in her facebook page of them looking very much the couple. I couldn’t believe it and confronted him about it. He said that she was a crazy ex girl friend who still thought they were together. That they were from the same neighborhood and still knew the same people and they would see each other once in a while at events – but that he was not with her. He was very convincing and I believed him again. Seventh year, last September 2014, he went into end stage renal failure. He ended up having his left kidney removed. And it was during this crisis that everything was revealed to me. That crazy ex-girlfriend was someone he was involved with in a long standing relationship for the past 15 years! And it turned out he was involved with me and with the woman who he said had a kidney for him for seven years out of those 15 years! It was awful. Had I not been in the healthcare business and went with him to every doctor appointment with him for over four years (his doctor happened to be employed by the same hospital where I work), I would not have believed him. He told the other two women about each other, but he didn’t tell them about me. Even heard what he told them each over the phone – he lied to them, of course. Told one he had to be with the “kidney girl” (that is what he called her) because she was “dangling a kidney” over him and that he only had been with her for two years because he had to. (By the way, I am very familar with how living kidney donation works now and had that woman been a match, the transplant operation would have happened by now, he just kept saying it hadn’t happen because he didn’t want to get married.) To kidney girl he said “you are the one” and that that other woman meant nothing to him. To me he said that I knew everything now, that I was like family to him, and that he wasn’t going to hide me, but he couldn’t tell them about me and he asked me to help him for his mother’s sake. At that point I had met his mother – I got her to go see him at the hospital. I was paralyzed and did what he told me to do. I met both women and kept them apart from each other at the hospital. He told them that I was a great friend of his, that I had been there for him when others were not. They didn’t question him nor did they ask me any questions. They even thanked me for helping him so much. They were both lovely women with no clue of what this man really is. I saw the love they have for him in their eyes and I knew that even after they knew he was a cheater and a liar that they would still stay with him. Even after he supposedly came clean with them, they still wanted to be by his side and I had to orchestrate how they would separately see him at the hospital. I’ve been devastated ever since then. I spent two weeks at his side, night and day, at the hospital caring for him – washing him, cleaning his vomit and throwing away his bloody urine. He left the hospital, started dialysis, and is still living his life the way it was before the operation. Going from house to house with a little suitcase, playing one woman against the other. Using the silent treatment, not calling them back. He’s even spoken to them in front of me about where he is (in bed with me, but says resting at his house because he needs to be with his elderly mother) and he lies and lies with no remose. I tried to leave him after the operation and then again in October and November. All three times he seduced me and got me back into bed saying that he loved me, that he couldn’t be without me, that I knew everything about him. I felt disgusted since I knew he had been sleeping with the other two women (and who knows how many more). One of them even told me that they had not been intimate for a while, but that they were having sex again after the operation. I even think one day he came from her bed to mine. I’ve gotten myself tested twice already and thank God, I am ok so far. I also felt guilty because I felt like an accomplice because of what I helped him do at the hospital. I wish that at the time I met the other women I would have had the courage to put all three of us in a room together and just blow his cover. I finally had the courage to tell him at the end of November that I couldn’t do this anymore, that I could not be with him. He had the audacity to tell me take as much space as you need, but it is not forever. I finally went No Contact and blocked him January 1st. I am still devastated. I don’t sleep much and have lost a lot of weight. I also have been drinking more. I just still can’t accept this has happened to me. I wish I could expose him for the fraud that he really is. And reading up on sociopaths, I can’t believe it has happened to so many women. And my narcissist sociopath gets away with it as do all the others. I struggle every day and sometimes I don’t know how I have coped and just wish for it to all go away.

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    • Tela

      Sophia, thank you for sharing. First off, there is no shame for you to carry. It does not matter the level of education {I, myself am highly educated} and was also sucked into the crazy world of a Sociopath. Shame is something we do NOT carry! In a sense, yes, you did enable him to continue with his deceit and lies with several women, however, you also got to the point that you said no more!!!! The No Contact was the very best thing to do, even though it is extremely hard to do!! But you can, and you must stick with it. If you talk to him again, it will be more lies/ more deceit. He may even tell you how you were the best thing ever in his life etc etc. This is the Sociopaths mental manipulation they do. Yes, you think of all the good times, then the next moment you think ‘how could he do this to me, what did I do to deserve this’? You did nothing except open your heart and soul to a soulless individual. Please give yourself some time to process what you have been through over the last several years. And read! I have several post about what you wen through and where you are currently. You are on an emotional roller coaster in and out of hell. Eventually, in time…..you will get off that roller coaster. But you cannot hurry it along. If you want, please email me at TelaHill1@gmail.com

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  13. 123jkh

    A ‘friend’ I have known for 1 1/2 years now has been playing me masterfully now, emotionally and financially to the tune of over $5, 6, 7… thousand dollars. I’ve lost count. I’m in therapy and it has been helping, but this guy somehow figures out a new story line to pull me back in to the lies. When I tell him how messed up my head has been, because I feel powerless to walkaway and tell him no to his persistent demands upon my money and time. I tell him that and explain the damage that’s been done to my personal finances, it’s like he only hears it for the day. Why because the next day, today he comes back with an even bigger with more desperation in his tone, that I need to solve this new and bigger financial need with his career advancement. I’m immediately skeptical of anything he tells me and refuse to give in. Not exactly, I offer to help him, but only on my terms. I will not give him any cash I will make the purchase that he needs for his new job, but he would not allow me to do that.
    Now he has played the blackmail card a few times before. Something happened between him and I that does not need to be shared amongst certain family members and my employer. Again today he’s playing the blackmail card, cause I refused to go out into the night, purchase and deliver to him a pack of cigarettes, plus what happened earlier with his job money demand..
    His stories and manipulations are filled with twists and turns that have caused me to question my own mental well being. He figured me out early on and has been playing me so well, that at every turn he comes up with a new want or need that only I can remedy, I have to get away from this guy. He appears to be becoming more desperate in his demands, stories and his demeanor. One day he can be someone I want as my friend, but then today he has given much to be concerned about.
    Hope you like my photo. It’s called a wall cloud.If you ever see one of these, you better run for cover, there is a tornado ready to descend upon you. Someday that’s just the way I feel. Thanks for letting me share my desperation with the sociopathlife.com blog.

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    • Tela

      Thank you for sharing. There was no picture attached to your comment. You have got to start the no contact!!! Or this guy will continually manipulate you, control you, and like you said try and blackmail you. What has happened is, you have lost complete control over your own life. And until you stand up and say “NO MORE” and MEAN IT and STICK to it, you will find you cannot escape this continued behaviour from him. Please, try and stop the communication. That is the very first step and the most important!

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    • Emerson

      Wow. Your assessment is so aactrcue. I nearly married a Sociopath. Every time I tried to escape, she brought me back in. She was so very charming, intelligent and believable. Once I finally broke loose moved to a different city I discovered that pretty much everything she told me was a lie. Then unfortunately I found that she had literally destroyed the lives of two freinds of mine through shear manipulation. Unless involved with a sociapath you cannot understand their level of manipulation (power). I was stuck until I saw the play Oleana then something clicked with me. I understood that some people really are pure evil. There is absolutely no comprehending their frame of reference. They truly live in a universe where the rules are different. Jodi Arias reminds me VERY MUCH of my ex. She was beautiful, manipulative, but sympathetic. Spoke very intelligently, was a nymphomaiac and (according to conventional norms) as sexual deviant, was a consumate liar, and could make one feel guilty at every turn. She was also evil incarnate. I sincerely beleive Arias should be put to death. The world is scary place with people like her in it.

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  14. JM

    I was married to a narcissistic sociopath for 7 years ( together for 10). We have 2 boys together and have seen separated ( now thankfully divorced) for 3 years. This blog had given me so much info on exactly what I have been dealing with for half of my life. I’m still healing and looking for ways to deal since I have to co parent with him. I never thought my life would be this would happen to me, I was so strong and independent. I’ve come a long way from the person he withered me down to ( 3 years ago) slowly getting my strength and independence back but I still have a long way to go! Thanks for all the insight and encouraging words!

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    • Tela

      Thank you JM for your comment. If you can share how your co-parenting works on my Sharing Page so that you may help others with how it is/is not working for you. I’m happy you have made progress on healing. As you said, it is a long process! ❤

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  15. realniceguy

    hey guys realnice guy here..all your comments and bloggs are so necessary for the healing of others,,thank you all so much..well i recently had to break it off with my socio again about a week ago THANKFULLY I.VE BEEN THROUGH THIS BEFORE SO it.s kinda lost its sting…anyway about two months ago ..i noticed that my socoi.s stopped touching me in her normally approving way ,a week later while doing a day road trip she explained to me that she,s been standoffish because she has some kind of vaginal infection but that it was under control…not suprised by this i said to her,,ok we.ll have to do everything that we can not to allow this to affect us by practicing safe sex…mind you that we had a fall out about a month prior over an accident which accured in her garden which she had a complete meltdown over…actually if i recall my dates correctly the same night of the meltdown SHE RE-APPEARED ON ONE OF HER FAVORITE SOCIAL MEDIA SITES,,LOOKING FOR ANOTHER VICTIM…now 30 days later she pops up with a vaginal infection…this happened last year as well when we broke up in august,,,,one evening while doing some facebooking..i noticed that her contacts light came on about 2;30 in the morning..she had apparently been out on a date and was saying goodnight on facebook…6months later we started talking again and planning to do things…upon comming to her house once inside i noticed some things were missing such as a sofa that she had promissed me,,and a mans leather coat that was not there before…she ofcourse said she didnt know who it belonged to…LIAR PEOPLE JUST LEAVE LEATHER COATS LAYING AROUND…so as we go along i notice that she seems very releaved that we are back together but i could see apprehension in her countenance…june comes around ..im getting baptized…..guess what she didn.teven call me to say congradulations …WOW THAT HURTthen when i went to go visit with her she offered to get me a FISHING LISCENSE AS CONSOLATION…IN 2 YEARS MY SOCIO HAS NEVER CALLED ME ON ANY HOLIDAY,BIRTHDAY OR SPECIAL DAY,,UNLESS I CALL FIRST ,,,now recently she has been putting me off on weekends because her daughter is pregnant…thats ok but 4 sundays in a row she made plans for us to hang out …and blew off each day like it was not even mentioned…WELL I HAD ENOUGH..for the first time this was not acceptable..all you have to do is make a call or send a text message saying your not available dont make p[lans blow them off then act like i can read your mind so I ENDED IT …YES I LOVE HER AND CARE ABOUT HER BUT..NO BODY DISERVES TO BE DISREGUARDED AND DISRESPECTED…i remember she said to me in the beginning of our relationship..(YOU REALLY HAVEN.T BEEN IN MANY RELATIONSHIPS HAVE YOU) SHE DOESN;TKNOW HOW WHORISH THAT MADE HER LOOK…so now its a week since i ended it and ofcourse you naturally want to talk and see that person of 3 years ….BUT REALLY HOW BADLY DO YOU NEED IT ….THESE PEOPLE NEED SDME SERIOUS HELP ……SO KEEP BLOGGING GUYS WE/RE ALL WE’VE GOT AND IT REALLY HELPS TO KNOW THAT YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE GOING THROUGH THIS HORROR

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    • JJK

      Hey realniceguy dude, I read your post, must have been the same beast I was with, or she has clones. Any way the complete ‘blowing off’ of dates, bare faced lies, and the complete lack of regard for birthdays I have experienced too. Birthday before last ‘it beast’ called me got spontaneously angry and told me to fuck off.
      This birthday she was over an hour late, made loads of bollocks excuses, made derogatory remarks about my daughter and my relationship, because she is a damaged jealous chav (trailer trash), made no effort, no gift, ordered expensive stuff of the restaurant menu, made a 1/4 hearted effort to pay, was oblivious to her indifference, and displayed every other sociopathic red flags from dissociation, to compulsive lies. I have to say it has has taken a solid 4 months to get right with this, but I got very lucky and got massive amounts of revenge.

      I hope you have an easy recovery and you come out the other side better stronger, happier.

      JJK

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      • realniceguy

        hey jjk isn,t it good to know that you were telling the truth all the while,,its been almost two months now NO CONTACT and things are getting better everyday… theres so much more to say …but for now…continue living truefully . with the love and understanding and compassion that God gave you …and you’ll see that this was an isolated case ,,and it was something that we had to learn from……yes its hard but it gets a little better everyday……LETS CONTINEU TO FOLLOW UP ON POSTS THEIR VERY IMPORTANT IN OUR HEALING ..SO KEEP YOURSELF BUSY AND DO FOR YOU NOW

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      • Tela

        Thank you David for your comment! And congratulations on 2 months of NC!!!!! That is awesome! Yes, I know it is hard, I”m sure there are days where you have an overwhelming urge to contact her for answers, but continue being in control. And thank you for being so honest with your comments here, so that other’s know they are not alone, and you yourself are on the same path of recovery and healing!!

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      • IMANEWMAN

        hey JJK its starting to get really nice as i continue to do me..meaning doing what i want and seeing whomever i want its REALLY A NICE BREAK FROM THE MONOTANNY OF WORRY AND FEAR …i,ll never go back to that place for ANYBODY…AND IM NOT MAD AT ALL…NOBODY EXPECTS TO BE DEMORALIZED,PUT DOWN,AND GASLIGHTED BY SOMEONE THAT THEY CARE ABOUT..WE WERE AT TOTAL UNAWARES…SO I.VE TAKEN THE HIGH ROAD AND EVERYBODY THAT REALLY KNOWS ME ARE SOOOO SUPPORTIVE..so the reward of freedom is gradual but EDIFYING,,IM A GREAT MAN AND WHAT MAKES ME GREAT IS MY GOD GIVEN HEART..what a precious gift….

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      • Muhamad

        I read this list with interest, and some of it rntaeoses with the situation I’ve decided today to informally investigate.Two people have been on the scene trying to help a family in the Midwest with its medical custody battle for an infant. Believe me, even if they’re sociopaths they’re nothing compared to the hospital, the county and the state, which have managed to perform atrocities while still looking good.Do sociopaths sometimes hide under the guise of rescuing people from worse sociopaths?What I’m noticing is that the family has kept these two people close, possibly from the beginning, rather than following competent legal counsel. I’m beginning to think they had something to do with those bad decisions, but I’m not sure if it was intentional or just blind blinded by a need to feel important, perhaps. Maybe they’re just sad sacks who love to wallow in pity and victimhood situations. They’re both alcoholics.One of them seduced me, and I’m fine, believe me. But I’m wondering if he acted to build trust in me so that I wouldn’t see what he was up to. It’s quite an amateurish move, because he didn’t check to turn the bullshit detector off on this thing before he started using it for his pleasure. (In other words, I’m still a bitch, and will still investigate you, even if you think we’re in a relationship. )

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    • Tela

      Hey David! Thanks for updating us on how it’s going. It’s difficult, at best to comprehend how another person can so coldly, and callously walk away as if you were yesterday’s garbage. Only to come slithering back, full of I’m sorry, regrets, and empty empty promises. . It takes a great amount of self perseverance, and control not to want to reply to a call/text. It sucks because you do love her, you do want to know how she is. But you also know, that if you make contact, you start all over again. I have said many times in my post, no amount of wishing/wanting/hoping/praying will make them see them for who and what they are. It’s very very sad. The heartbreak hurts like hell. You are did the right thing by ending it!

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      • JJK

        er Tela I was just wondering if you robbed that traffic cone or not, the one in the photo. I’ve got loads missing..

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        Ha! It was given to me by my friends on my birthday..they all signed it. And you can’t have it back!!! LOL 😉

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      • IMANEWGUY

        hey tela im glad to be back with you guys…im a musicain so im moving around a lot..but its nice to be around people who are genuine and caring and BOY what a reaction that im getting. IM STRONER AND VERY CONFIDENT AND EVERYONE CAN SEE IT AND IT FEELS SO GOOD…and the woman LOVE IT …SO YOU KNOW IM DOING A HOST OF NEW SONGS FOR MY BAND AND THEIR LOVING IT TOO ….SO THANKS YOU GUYS I LUV YA AND STAY INTOUCH

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      • Tela

        Hi David!! Thanks for stopping by! So happy to read how well your doing, and keeping so busy!! Your encouraging words to others are sincerely appreciated! Please stay in touch!! ~hugs~ ❤

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  16. Dennis

    I am a chronic pain patient(Trauma) that was treated by a sociopathic doctor for 12 months. The next doctor was controlled by the previous one to the point of driving me to a suicide plan. No one at the hospital involved wants to help me as that’s the way it works. Appreciate the words and the support they provide by letting people know ther’re not alone.

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    • Tela

      Thank you for your comment Dennis. I took a quick look at your blog {I had to actually laugh at the ‘warranty department’ comment! I will read through it later tonight. I’m sorry you were treated by Sociopath physicians. Yes! They do in fact exist.

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      • Prometheus

        I was seeing a sociopath doctor! I couldn’t believe that someone who “cares” for people could be so heartless and cruel. He strung me along for two years, disappointed me constantly, lied about everything, even things that didn’t matter. He kept saying he was miserable with his wife and was leaving her, but that day never came. I feel so stupid and violated and betrayed. I’m educated and independent, and now I feel worthless and broken. She caught him in this affair many times and always took him back. She took him back after a previous affair. I told her everything, and they’re still together because he tells her that he never loved me and that it’s over. It’s unfair that he can still have his fake marriage (since he’s incapable of love), is a respected doctor, and I’m the one who needs therapy now. There is no karma because he’ll always have his wife and family and money.

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      • Tela

        Thank you Prometheus for your comment. First off, please do not feel worthless. You were blindly sucked into a man’s life with nothing but LIES. You had no way of knowing that every word & action was a lie. Period. Classic Sociopath will tell you ‘how miserable their marriage is, how their life with their partner sucks’ blah blah blah. Yet, the Sociopath very seldom leaves their marriage {only unless the other person files for divorce and/or stops seeing them}. You cannot go back and change what he did to you! However, you can count your blessings that you did not end up with him. I know that sounds crazy, but think of this: what he did/is doing to his wife he will continue to do {cheat/lie} & if you were with him you would NEVER be able to trust him!! I promise you that. You are correct, he is incapable of love! Period. You fulfilled his ego, you fulfilled what he lacks inside. And he knew from moment one that you & he would never be together……..it was only a matter of time. If you need to, please send me an email to Taelahill@mail.com

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      • JJK

        I am in the mood for Guinness drinking, fried chicken eating, sociopathic beating road trip. Not only does Dennis have to deal with chronic pain, but a sociopath doctor. Bloody outrage.

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  17. miss my kids

    Hi. I must admit that I only found your blog because you clicked the like button on mine, but sinse I have and have read through some of your pages I wanted to say I’m impressed and thank you for adding more light to my historic problems. I am definitely not an expert on these matters only to say that experience has taught me the small amount I do know.

    You may have gathered from my blogs that my blogging is motivated by the fact that I’m a dad fighting for contact with his two children. I have been fighting “in my own way” for five years now and have really accepted that it will be a few years before my two children are over 16 and can make those decisions themselves. After 23 court hearings and endless hurtful mudslinging O eventually had a heart attack and decided that waiting was the best course of action. I now love with a wonderful woman who has seen me through the very worst and made space for my problems in her life. I freely admit that on an emotional bases I have been a slow learner and very quickly was able to admit my part in the downfall of my previous two relationships. yes this is my third relationship and I feel blessed to have her now.

    I also, realised that the best and most effective way to move on was to accept that you were at least 50% at fault and that forgiveness and an acceptance that we are all imperfect and make mistakes? This is the nature of life. So I did accept and I did forgive and that I am proud of.

    My problem is that although I moved on, both of my ex-partners didn’t and still now five years on from my last failure and fifteen from my first I still get these insulting and annoying emails. Yes I blog and should expect replies, but I never get personal in my blogging and I never attack individuals. In truth Most of what I write is simply as a record of my feelings for when my two children get older and make their own attempt to find their father. I loved my children dearly and those first few years year health breakingly painful. I love them now as much as I did then but have accepted that I needed to back off and wait. I think this is the best thing to do even though it was hard to make that decision.

    I have in the past messaged my ex-partner after recieving abusive messages and offered my apologies for my part and freely admitting my own failures in that relationship believing that I can’t go back and change anything but I can try to make amends and so we could maybe both move on. the problem is that even after all this time the other parties can’t and still find it necessary to degrade me not only via emails to me but to my friends and including my new partner who I dearly love.

    We have lovely lives now and we love each other dearly. Yes I had to go through a very broad learning curve, but I’m here now and better for it.

    Why can’t these women ever move on? I feel free now and to a large degree healed. I’m quite sure that they don’t.

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    • Tela

      Thank you for your comment. You asked ‘why can’t these women ever move on’…. As long as you continue to acknowledge their emails, you are giving them validation. And by validation I mean you are letting them know that they are still important enough that you will read and/or reply to them. This is where boundaries need to be put into place. Here is the link to my post about setting up boundaries. By trying to make ‘amends’, and constantly accepting whatever faults they perceive you have/had, will only give them more reason to stay in contact. If one or both of these partner’s are mother(s) of your children, and you have been alienated from them, I am not sure why you acknowledge anything they have to say, other than if it pertains to your children. And lastly, I’m going to venture out here and say that another reason they haven’t moved on is, it is apparent from your comment you have grown emotionally/spiritually from when you were when you were with them, and they may be angered by that. I know that sounds crazy, but as you have moved forward, found love {and peace}, they are still spinning in their cycle of going nowhere….

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      • miss my kids

        thank you very much. I do agree with your comments. I guess that deep down I would prefer to be friends, which is the reason I tried to reason with them. But it hasn’t worked so I guess I will just have to try and ignor. the problem is I keep getting very threatening emails and she has opened a gmail account in my name but no one will help me to stop her. It’s worrying.

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    • IMANEWMAN

      HEY miss my kids..i had the exact same situation happen to me 20 yrs ago ..where me x..was convinced by friends to go out and SOIL her oates….yes your right i also had to admit my fault in the demise of out relationship..but,BEING VINDICTIVE IS DEMONIC..TO WANT TO STRIKE BACK AT SOMEONE SHOW SOME VERY EVIDENT SIGNS OF ADOLESCENCE…THE MIONDSET OF A CHILD..I TOO HAD TO WAIT TIL MY CHILDREN GOT OLDER so that they could see for themserlves where the obvious delinquency had its origins….everything can be disguessed..and it takes A REAL HEALTHY SPIRITED PERSON TO ADMIT HIS OWN FAULTS AND OFFER FORGIVENESS thats something to be proud of..guess what my x is in a shambles and everyone can see it but my kids are ..like me GETTING STRONGER AND BETTER ..OUR CONFIDENCE IS SO HEALTHY FOR THEM..ITS HARD AS HELL BUT ITS WORTH IT ..guess what like my former x of 3 months she;ll one day show you a glimpse of what she really is and give you a partial apology for her short commings …THATS CALLED THE EVE EFFECT..DID EVE EVER SAY IM SORRY TO ADAM FOR USING HER GOD GIVEN BEAUTY TO SEDUCE HIM TO DO WRONG….NO NEVER….KNOW WHAT TO LOOK FOR AND MOVE CONFIDENTLY…YOU,LL BE OK TRUST ME …and the woman that your with now PRAY WITH HER BECAUSE SHE HAS THE NATURAL LOVE AND COMPASSION THAT GOD instilled in us from the beginning…..LOVE RULES…

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  18. narcopathcrusher

    I am not officially diagnosed (and i dont intent to be) but i am aware of my sociopathic traits. Does this mean i am not allowed to post?

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    • Tela

      Yes of course you may post, but I do ask that any comments not be ‘attacking’. I welcome everyone to have a ‘voice’ on my blog. ❤

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      • narcopathcrusher

        Thank you. I am sorry if you had rude or degrading comments from sociopaths in the past. I am well mannered though.

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  19. Jennifer Lee

    Thank you for sharing your experiences, almost every hour of the day i feel like im actually the crazy one but the more i keep reading the stronger i get and know that he will not beat me with his mind games and persistent abuse/harassment. Happiness & freedom is my goal & i get closer everyday x

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    • Tela

      Thank you Jennifer for your comment. Sadly they can truly makes us feel ‘crazy’, and not until we get away from them do we realize in fact we are not the ‘crazy’ one.

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  20. The Meandering Matriarch

    One of my readers: libbyvanhelsing, at Libby’s Piece of Mind has nominated me for the Very Inspiring Blogger award. In accepting this Award, I am required to nominate fifteen other blogs which I feel are deserving of this recognition.

    So I’ve nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger award. Here’s the rules;
    Thank and link to the person who nominated you.

    List the rules and display the award.

    Share seven facts about yourself.

    Nominate 15 other amazing blogs and comment on their posts to let them know they have been nominated.

    Proudly display the award logo on your blog and follow the blogger who nominated you, both are found at this link:


    Cheers!

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  21. James

    This website has saved me from complete oblivion..Thank G_D I found you

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    • Tela

      Thank you James for your comment. Welcome, and I hope you have answers to some questions you may have. Please send an email if there is something I haven’t yet addressed or you have a specific question(s).

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  22. joesorandom

    hmmm so im reading your bucket list.. im finding it hard to believe that such an awesome person such as yourself has not been able to do 4/7/12/13 all at around the same time!

    shreks like me, i understand.. but you? naaaaa, i find it hard to believe that someone as smart and as pretty as you doesnt have someone on their arm.

    just sayin

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  23. rachel

    Tela, thanks for finding my blog, Be Whole Now. I am blown away by the power, depth, and authenticity of your blog. Not to mention your raw courage. You will doubtless help many other women and men who make their way to your cyber-doorstep. I hope you’ll come back to my site and fill up on “intelligent inspiration” as you walk your path of healing and wholeness. Blessings…

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  24. eoftheu2014

    Thank you. It is difficult as he is a narcissist with a supply like no other. This week he has had six different women spend the night. Who does that?? I simply gained my perspective back. When my counselor informed me I was addicted and I realized I was behaving like an addict, detoxing was the only way to go. I am no angry with him. How can you be angry with someone for being who they are? I was angry with myself because I knew he had a woman for every day of the week. Once I forgave myself I was on the road to recovery. These blogs are wonderful for understanding and healing. Best to you.

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  25. eoftheu2014

    Hey Tela,

    I’ve watched romantic comedies most of my adult life. And, each time I am left thinking “where’s my love story”. Like you, my Mr. Wonderful turned out to be a real narcissist. I now realize, like you, those are movies. Perhaps someday I will have my happy ever after, but until then, I am fine on my own. The heartache has pretty much subsided and I really don’t wanna be with him ‘like that’ anymore anyway.

    I knew nothing about narcissist and even thought it was just a casual description of people who were arrogant. But we live and we learn, don’t we! ! After he abruptly stopped communicating with me on a daily basis, I beat myself silly (and my friends) with what could I have possibly done to turn the relationship totally off. I was obsessing over this man day and night. Now mind you, I knew he was already seeing several (and I mean several) women when I embarked on the craziness. But he caught me on a downspin and the story begin. I’m so much better. The blogs on narcissism, my counselor and my friends helped me tremendously

    The “no contact” thing is difficult for me as we are — get this — neighbors! LOL. I’m determined to have a semblance of a friendship with him as I don’t wanna be not speaking to my neighbor. I am fine now. I can speak to him, even have a conversation. But I know I will never again be a member of his harem. Why? Cause now that I am out of it, I can realize the pain and loss of self-esteem he was causing me.

    I emerged a much better me. Now I am doing what I love — I write! I even wrote a novella summarizing the relationship. It was therapeutic, detoxing. I am truly thankful to him because I discovered a part of me that I would have never tapped into had I not made this mistake!

    I survived this relationships. How? I wanted to feel good. I wanted him out of my system. I did not want to spend 2014 like I had 2013. I don’t even think I am in recovery. Heck, I recovered from the ten months of insanity. Now I get it! Narcissism is real. The sufferers lack a conscience, a soul! And if you do not love yourself enough, they will suck the life out of you. I was on my way.

    Love your blog!

    Treat yourself well!

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    • Tela

      Thank you for your comment! I especially love the ‘detoxing’ part…what an appropriate way to describe what we go through after the discard! And bless you for being ‘neighborly’ I’m not sure I could do that! Cheers to a fabulous 2014!!!

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  26. Janna

    Hey lady. I can’t figure out how to send you a private message to let you know I have changed my blog address to mylifedayjourney.wordpress.com You follow me on my other My LifeDay Journey but I didn’t like the fact that I had my full name in the address. So….Please come and like my new blog home!

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