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Ship Wreck

I wrote an article titled Tsunami Effect, you can read that HEREThis article is about the Ship Wreck that happens when you are still involved with a Sociopath, or now apart. Once you realize what kind of ASPD person you are dealing with, be it Narcissistic Sociopath, Psychopath, Cluster B personality, they create a total Ship Wreck of your life!

You have been completely and totally ripped apart! You have never experienced such heartbreak in your life~EVER. You may even see the Ex because of close proximity, or you still look at their social media accounts { no, no, no!} Even worse, you have to co-parent with an ex Sociopath. They do not follow the court order’s, they do not provide the child support {therefore your barely making ends-meet}, and in severe cases they cause parental alienation. Sociopaths have zero conscious! NONE! When you break-up, and then they start coming back around acting making you think they have change…….HA! Please do not fool yourself into believing they have seen the light and the error of their ways. It’s all bullshit to suck you back in! This is what happens in your world:

“In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy! They come 10 seconds apart and don’t even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a restaurant etc. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes crashing! But in between waves, there is life! 

Somewhere down the line, and it’s different for everybody, you find the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. Now you can see them coming, an anniversary, a birthday, Christmas. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage.

The waves really never stop coming, no matter how long it has been post Sociopath. But you learn that you’ll survive them. And other waves will also come, which will leave a lot of scars.” And this is where it is hard for you when talking to family or friends. The scars you have are not visible, as if a scar on your arm or leg or one from surgery, where your family & friends can ‘sympathize’. The scars you have from the Ship Wreck are deep inside your head, deep inside your heart. Therefore, all to often you hear ‘just get over it’, ‘move on’, ‘why dwell on the past’. Those people have no clue what your Ship Wreck and Tsunami Shit storm have caused you for the rest of your life!

life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboat     voltaire


9 Responses to “Ship Wreck”

  1. secretangel

    Awesome post! This perfectly described what happened to me and many others with the tsunami effect… an almost indescribable experience. Thanks for all that you do to help victims.


  2. Santaland

    Wonderfully written and again right on the spot. Tela, I really know what you are saying…the good thing is that we really can spot the next wave through experience, thus we can prepare ourselves. Sure the waves become further apart and sure there are lots of triggers that cause the waves…but as long as we build ourselves up, we can dive right through the waves before they come crashing down, just remember that the waves and triggers pop up anywhere, but we are prepared. Only if you have been hit by a tsunami sociopath and their bullshit and survived can you prepare yourself. It never goes away. But we can focus on other things as we swim along, because being with a sociopath is like having a broken pencil, pointless! No direction, no logic, no compass, just a storm of bullshit.

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    • Tela

      Thank you SantaLand for your insightful and helpful comment. As you, and so many other’s now, the waves crash and basically drown us. However, we have learned how to hang on to the tiny wrecked pieces of ourselves and find a bit of relief before the next wave! ❤

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    • neednpeace

      I am stealing your last sentence and posting it on my mirror so I can see it every morning. “being with a sociopath is like having a broken pencil, pointless. etc”. I love it!


      • Santaland

        It is pointless if you really wrap your brain around it…and you simply cannot understand it. The best part is, they are shallow yet draining.

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