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Sociopath Addiction

When you read the word addiction your first thought is probably, addiction to drugs, alcohol, pornography, tobacco etc. The addiction I’m going to talk about in this article is what you have to the Sociopath.
Most all Sociopaths have an addiction to one of the above, and is usually always hidden from you when you met them. They do this because they are portraying themselves to be the most perfect person you have ever met!!!! Not until the mask slips, not until their true, evil personality comes out, not until you find yourself walking on a constantly moving mine-field of their bombs do you see their addictions. And once you have been spoon fed the POISON you, now have an addiction to them.
You cannot seem to let go. You want to call them, you check their Facebook or WhatsApp/Snapchat or any other social media account. Your addicted to wanting to know their every move. Who they are with, what are they doing. Your addicted to consuming thoughts of ‘are they thinking of me? Do they even miss me?” Here is your cold harsh reality check~ No they are not, and no they do not!!. Period. You are addicted to the euphoric feelings you had when you were with them, your addicted to the fun/exciting times you had together. Your addicted to the happiness you felt when they graced you with their presence, minus the mind-fucking. Your addicted to wanting to ‘fix’ them. Your addicted to getting the perfect life back that you initially had. Your addicted to the feelings of happiness when you do hear from them or see them. So how do you break this addiction?

The first thing is you have got to truly understand is that, YOU are not the one with the Personality Disorder. The addiction you have was done silently & methodically by the Sociopath~ for a reason! Reason being is, you fulfilled everything they lack. And once you sustained them long enough, boom, the bombs started going off! Confusion & Chaos are now in place. You no longer are able to ‘feed’ them, you no longer provide the excitement, they are tired of being caught in their pathological lies! Their dual & triple lifestyles have now been exposed. And in classic Sociopath fashion they just simply discarded the one causing the “problems” in their life……….as if you were the one causing the problems.

The ONLY WAY to stop your addiction is to do it cold-turkey. I’ve said it hundreds of times on this website, it begins with NO CONTACT. Zero! Those of you that have to co-parent know you have to maintain some contact, but that does not equate to the other parent keeping the addiction in place. You have to go through the withdraws! No way around it. The physical aching to see them or hear from them. The hemorrhaging of heartbreak, the inability to concentrate, the endless river’s of tears. No joy in your life. The thousands of questions. This is the withdrawal of your addiction. And it sucks! Big time…..there is no easy way out of the addiction because your head & heart are having an internal addiction as well. To pick up the phone, to send an email, to check their social media, just starts the addiction all over again. Suffer through this! Reach out to people for support {even though you might hear ‘just get over it}, you can’t! Your going through a withdraw of an addiction, and it takes a lot of time!! There is no fairy dust, magic wand, medications, therapy to ‘fix’ the Sociopath. However, there is help for your addiction to that person. You just have to want it, and want it badly!

if the Sociopath was the perfect person you became addicted to, they would be living happily-ever-after. not fucking up innocent people’s lives     taela hill

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17 Responses to “Sociopath Addiction”

  1. Lambent

    He knew I was breaking up with him, but somehow he tinkered with the conversation enough that it became a mutual breakup to make up with literal minutes in between. The breakup conversation didn’t end- we cried together, held our pillows in our respective beds together, we watched a movie together yet universes apart. The criticism stopped, he poured his priceless oil of manipulation over my very soul. I whispered in the night to him, my Peter Pan- suddenly he’s pulling me down, down, down, into his abyss and we’re closer than ever before. I whisper the things I’ve learned of his darkness, the lamb whispering bedtime stories to the wolf. The truth is rationed, making it all the more powerful and dark like his sepulcher stare.

    He’s my addiction… my praxis… my nemesis.

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    • Tela

      Teela!!! Sooooo good to hear from you! I’ve missed you so much! I hope things are going better for you & that you and the kids are safe!! ❤

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      • Teela Hart

        I’ve missed you too girl. It’s a roller coaster ride but We’re moving forward with a good counselor.
        We’re safe.
        Love you Sister!❤️

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  2. sillygirl

    I can’t stop thinking about him. How can he move on so fast? He is happy now. Me? I am still here pining for him and picking up the pieces of my broken heart. I hate him but i missed his presence. The good times and the happy memories kept playing in my mind. His face, his smile, his laughter, I can’t seem to forget them. He promised to marry me, he promised to fight for our future. How can people let go just like that? I am really disappointed. DAY 5 of no contact and I am still trying to control my fingers from dialing his number. How can this feeling disappear? I cant seem to concentrate on anything. It is painful. Will somebody please make this heartache go away?

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    • Tela

      SillyGirl, please read through the other articles on my site as they will help you to understand why you ‘hate him, but miss him’. What you are going through is completely normal. I KNOW IT SUCKS! I KNOW IT HURTS. But do NOT pick up the phone & contact him. That starts the addiction all over again. Your emotions are going through a withdraw, just like a person addicted to drugs or alcohol. There is a physical withdraw {along with mental}. A withdraw from an emotional addiction is: thoughts all over the map, unable to eat/sleep. The ‘i love them’ one minute to ‘i hate them’ the next. The physical pain of wanting to be back in their arms and so on. Your brand new into the discard, and your just now getting some clarity on who the person is you were/are in love with. I cannot stress enough, that if he contacts you~ this terrible pain your in today will start all over again.

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  3. notme2014

    The pain and longing are still with me….I do know how bad it would be if I went back, even though I sometimes wish it was different…I KNOW it never would be. Addiction is EXACTLY what it is. I hope I can get him out of my head….and soon!!!

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    • AlohaLover

      ” Longing ” perfect word. It’s been a year and just now am I starting to let go of the ” longing ” feeling or maybe it’s letting go of me but when I DO slip and go there, it takes me 2 seconds to remember why I am not with him. And because I backed him into a corner and confronted him with his truths, he will never ever circle back to me.
      That word, for me, brings to my heart such a empty feeling. That is a powerful word and one that I will be deleting from my memory. Ouch….time to go back to the memories of what he has done to me. : ) xox

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      • notme2014

        I too, told him what I thought he was and called him out on his lies. He continued to blame me for everything. I don’t listen…I don’t understand….maybe my therapist can tell me why??? :). I feel your pain….but have to know it will one day be better. Love and light ….

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      • Tela

        Yes NotMe, it WILL be better one day. It takes time, and a lot of it. What is it

          exactly

        you do not understand?

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      • Santaland

        Indeed, longing is what we have…after all the hoping we had during the relationship…hoping they would revert back to the beginning stage, hoping thier lies were not lies, hoping they would stop blaming, twisting etc, hoping they would see the light, stop the abuse (mantal and/or physical)….hoping for a miracle. Then when hope is no longer an option, longing kicks in. That said, never give up on hope, well except with the sociopath sick person because it will be always the same result with us being hurt, gas-lit, and abused some more. What bothers me is the lack or responsibility, empathy, remorse, accoutability…like an elephant in a China shop, they destroy everything even hope. Yet we long for what…more of their BS?

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      • Tela

        What are you ‘longing’ for?? To be in his arms? To have someone mental & emotionally mind fuck you? Is it a physical longing? Or emotional? This is the addiction! ❤

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      • AlohaLover

        After I had the fairy tale and before I knew it was an illusion, life was perfect. My heart was full of love, and hope for a great future. Then the bomb dropped and all was gone.
        The trigger for me was the word ‘ longing ‘. Longing to be held, longing for the fairy tale, longing for the way it was……NOT GOING TO HAPPEN EVER, I know that. I am a recovering addict because of a Narcissitic Sociopath. I NEVER want to go through any of that again. But, I also know there are triggers and that word was a trigger for me. I’ve come a long way and have a long way to go. I am here a lot just to remind me of the hell I was in.
        Thank you for everything…. xox

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      • Ruby

        Wow. This has to be the best place I have found to work through this forest of pain. When I read the posts here, I realize I am not crazy. I am stunned at so much of what I read here, because it is EXACTLY what my life was like with this person. My mouth literally falls open at what I read here. I was NOT crazy! I was not all the things he said I was. I was a victim. I am just stunned, and so relieved, that I wasn’t losing my mind.

        I, too, called him out on his lies on our day of last contact, and he CONTINUED to twist the truth and blame me. He redefined my reality right up to the last moment. I don’t believe he’ll be contacting me again. I think he finally understood that he can no longer manipulate and feed off of me.

        Now, I’m simply in that horrible withdrawal. The knowledge that 18 years of my life wasn’t real, that I think I saw it, but blinded myself to it, because I “loved”. I don’t know. I only know that like any withdrawal this will pass. It will not be easy. It’s like you’re being haunted. And it is often PHYSICALLY painful. I’ve been reading a lot about neuroscience and how neural pathways are created in the brain, and it helps a little to know that the pain of withdrawal is physical, as well. It helps to know that this was an addiction, not love. And addictions can be overcome.

        I wish I was out of this forest of pain; I’m tired of the pain, and the tears, and the thoughts that won’t go away, and the constant replaying of EVERYTHING. But I know it will eventually go away. And reading the posts on here help a lot.

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  4. AlohaLover

    I’m addicted to the ILLUSION of what I thought he was and that is something that either takes time or will NEVER leave because a sociopathic break up is not normal…it just explodes with out warning. It would almost be better if he died in a car crash.
    I go back to the good times and then I quickly go to the hookers and whores and whatever else and that snaps me back into reality.

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    • Isabel

      My counsellor touched on addiction today. I now know I was addicted to him. I still am. He never leaves my mind. He often told me I was like a drug to him. That he was obsessed with me. Besotted with me. The more sessions I have with my counsellor the more I am starting to think I have some similar traits to him. How could he use those words with me or did he just know what to say? He showed signs of addiction too. Followed me, read my social media sights, called, emailed, text. He chased me a lot. Sure he’d then disappear on me but he did chase me a lot. I am currently going cold turkey. Almost 10 weeks. He lost control and it ended very badly. This is by far the most painful thing I have endured in my life. There is no way back, I know this. If there was, I am ashamed to say I would go back. As toxic as it was I’d go back and I don’t know if I will ever get over him. I don’t understand how people can get to the nit caring stage. For someone who manipulated me and physically beat me – these past 10 weeks have been hell and I can’t see the light.

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