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Sociopath Will You Ever Go Away?!

I had a comment from a reader under the No Contact Post: “I need help. The narc won’t stop even though I went no contact. I haven’t seen him in two years. I don’t know what to do I feel like I can’t get away or that he will do something to hurt me or my family. I’m scared and I don’t know the answer. Keep ignoring him? Respond just enough to keep him from getting angrier? I want him completely and permanently out of my life. He’s texting and calling.” I replied to her underneath, but I also want to write a post about this.

A few weeks back Greg, the Ex {I refuse to say ‘my’ Ex as I want zero association with him}. After being apart for over a year and half, he has been RELENTLESS in making sure to have some sort of contact with me. Be it his flying monkey’s, actual prostitutes etc. You can read about all of this HERE

Prior to that I had to hire an attorney and have him served because of continual harassment. After he was served he had the balls  nerve, to fire off an email to my attorney trying to discredit me. And in typical Sociopath behaviour, they fear nothing! You can read about what he did to discredit me and the letter he was served with HERE.   

And then a week ago I received this email: My responses will be in RED: and i apologize for the harsh reality words! Even though I wrote a post about having the Last WordEven an educated woman with her degree in Psychology just cannot continue to handle the bullshit. My advice, if you need to have the last word, do it. However, do not except for the Sociopath to have an ‘awakening’ and saying to themselves ‘wow, I really am fucked up’. It won’t happen!!  

From: Greg
Date: February 12, 2015 11:30:25 AM
To: ❤️Tela❤️ <telahill1@gmail.com>
Subject: exactly!

I’m no longer going to answer your calls, texts, or emails until you give me enough GODDAMNED respect and stop suspending your phone.{your wanting respect? Really? that’s hilarious, why didn’t you give ME any respect?}  If you can’t, then oh well. You got a second phone that I don’t even have the number to, and yet you HAD access to ALL of my stuff.{once again, how did i have access to “ALL” of your “STUFF”?? Oh that’s right! YOU GAVE ME ACCESS…  once again, Tela has to one-up.{was this a ‘one-up’? No if you will get out of delusional land and remember YOU GAVE ME ACCESS to ‘PROVE I’m NOT LYING!!!!!”} If you would stop all this crap, we could have a perfect relationship and I know you know that.{now Tela, stop pointing out the truths of my behaviour because you know i don’t like it and will only attack you. so Tela YOU stop the crap while i continue….ohhhh OK!!! } I know you know I love you and will fill your heart with passion, joy, laughter, and companionship. Why did I cheat to you and lie about it? Because you only dangled little carrots of hope in front of me.{taaaa-daaaaa, and now ONE MORE REASON, I mean EXCUSE as to why you cheated, how many more will be added to the list of excuses you have already given me????} It was ALL on your terms. You were moving too slow for me considering you were already my love and my best friend.{if i was moving ‘to slow’ then why not fucking tell me?? Instead of blaming me here, all you had to say in big boy grown up terms “Tela this is moving to slow I can’t do this’, but noooooo, you were having too much fun leading me on and fucking other women…keeping ME hanging on for the ‘just in case it didn’t work out with someone else’. I begged you to let me move close to you so we could have a better relationship,{and so you did. as if that is the fix all to ALL the bullshit for the past 16 months. Move wherever the fuck you want.} told you I loved you and missed you and got NOTHING in return.{ahhhhhh, here we throw down the victim card. I told you ‘TELL ME THE FUCKING TRUTH EVERY SINGLE DAY, AND GOT NOTHING IN RETURN!!! NOTHING!!!!!! EXCEPT MORE FUCKING LIES AND PROMISES. SO DON’T YOU DARE THROW DOWN THIS PATHETIC BLAME CARD THAT YOU GOT ‘NOTHING IN RETURN’...only YOU are the cause of that. I was weak and hurting because ALL I WANTED IN THIS WORLD WAS YOU!! So I filled the void with those girls.{hurting/weak/drunk/lonely/revenge/getting back at me/now add in moving to slow}, where did the {i need to be honest with Tela and end it with her, ever come into your mind??? The first time you would have told me “Greg, I love you, let’s make this happen”, ALL of my crap would have stopped.{will you read this again? All i had to say was ‘i love you let’s make this work etc….’ ummmmmmm, this is so hard to comprehend because that’s like saying to a heroin addict, don’t do that it will hurt you, but the first time they are around it, or lonely, or weak they shoot up again. Pretty sad someone had to say words to you for YOUR actions to be good. That in itself is so fucked up!! seriously. } Open up a little next time,{how much more OPEN did I need to be to make you realize you were lying not only to me but to yourself??? stop the fucking blame game!!!} you made me feel like I was beating a dead horse for many months.{if I ‘made you feel’ like this, it’s because YOU DID and STILL DO. You are the one who refuses to let go of bullshit that cannot be changed in your ENTIRE past.} I think I stuck it out A HELL OF A LOT LONGER than most guys would have.{BULLSHIT right here! YOU were the one BEGGING me for ONE MORE CHANCE. So to say ‘YOU’ stuck it out is straight up 100% bullshit because YOU were the one fucking around and lying/deceiving making promise after promise and begging me for chance after chance. So I AM the ONE who STUCK IT OUT~ NOT YOU!!! Don’t you EVER say that again.  But that’s because I know how much I love you, desire you, and want to be with you. Balls in your court. If you want us to happen, say the word and I’ll make it happen. And I’ll treat you like an angel. We will laugh, sing, be best friends, fly, and make an awesome life together. I love you Tela.

Sent from
Greg’s iPhone

 If you read that email, look how many times I was ‘blamed’ for him cheating, I was ‘blamed’ for pretty much everything. So to get the  Sociopath to go away, for me, it was very easy to block him on my cell. Block his email address {of course I have countless numbers from flying monkey’s blocked}. You cannot keep playing their game. They are so much more skilled than those of us without an ASPD. To fear them, only gives them more satisfaction, more control etc. You have to dig deep within yourself to stop! Stop giving them any part of your being! The Sociopath is so not worthy!

This quote say’s it all perfectly!!!  “Good-bye. I am leaving because I am bored.”            george saunders

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43 Responses to “Sociopath Will You Ever Go Away?!”

  1. Constance

    Debbie, Flying Monkeys are the people who do things to the narcissist/sociopath’s target on behalf of the narcissist sociopath. Some might not realize they’re being used that way, to harm others, likely have had their heads filled with lies about the target. Others are apaths, who love the drama just as much as the narcissist/sociopath does. Another term for it is abuse by proxy.

    Tela, if you didn’t name him, I’d swear this was the ex narcopath. And high five for not claiming him, I’m right there with you! They all really do go to the same asshole college, don’t they? Same scripts, same tactics. Truly pathological.

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    • Tela

      Thank you Constance for your comment & explanation. There are sooooo many Sociopaths that have the flying monkey’s, and those monkey’s truly enjoy the delusional bullshit drama filled world!!
      High five back at you!!! I refuse to use the word ‘MY ex Narcissistic Sociopath, as I said, I want ZERO attachment to the douche bag 😀

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    • idodoyouride

      erase him from your life like he never existed. these guys DO NOT CARE ABOUT us they are actors and blamers and that never changes. get a restraining order and have him thrown in jail for breaking it. by answering him and arguing and trying to make him understand ( he never will get it dont bother ) its keeping you playing his game. be done.

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    • Tela

      Thank you Gale for the re-blog <3. And yes, it takes a machete and a great deal of mental and emotional strength to get these toxic people out of our lives. 😀

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  2. marilynmunrow

    Reblogged this on Marilyn Munrow and commented:
    I completely agree, you are allowing him space in your head. STOP IT SUGAR. Ignore him completely. If he continues, go to the police. They can, and will do something about it now. It is getting to be a law in every country in the civilized world now. Cyberbullying, stalking, harassment, whatever we call this type of dispicable behaviour is unacceptable and you do not need to put up with it. Stand tall, strong and ignore him. You do not need to respond. You told him. NO MORE, NOW MEAN IT. I sympathize as i was in the same boat as you, but i stopped it. I took control back.

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    • Tela

      Thank you Marilyn for the Re-Blog ❤ & the encouraging words. There are no lengths to what a Sociopath will go to, just to make sure you are living a HELL like they do. And I love the words "NO MORE, NOW MEAN IT” 😀

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      • marilynmunrow

        I didnt mean it to sound like i was shouting at you. Just wanted to express how i told my stalker. I said it firm and meant it firm too.

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      • Tela

        LOL Marilyn I didn’t take it as shouting! I absolutely agree with those words! Very powerful and one’s that we all need to tell ourselves daily!!! 😀 ❤

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      • marilynmunrow

        I am glad you feel like this, i am a different person now to when this journey of stalking and harassment started for me, and i am afraid i do call a spade a spade. Thats why i apologise sometimes for the way i speak. xxxxxx

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  3. notme2014

    I read and re-read your text conversation….seriously, I think we are…were…involved with the same guy…lol. Such childish thinking…and a true bully. I actually left my husband for the socio…only to be discarded and accused I was still having a relationship with my husband. That was his reasoning for why we couldn’t have the perfect beautiful loving life together…never mind all the other women he was constantly telling me he was fucking. (All of that may be a lie… To this day I really don’t know the truth). But it really doesn’t matter…true or not..the whole purpose was to hurt me!. But it was AKWAYS my fault. Always… Everything….I just wish his mask had slipped before I made the biggest mistake of my life… Now I am alone…and learning to love myself and be OK. Love and light Tela…and all the other victims out there.

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    • Tela

      Thank you NotMe. This was actually an email, but there were thousands of text messages over the last 2 years that I was blamed for everything short of a goldfish dying. And what is funny {now} is when I would ask a single direct question of ONE lie he could give me a 300 word dissertation about everything EXCEPT answering the one question! The truth with a Narcissistic Sociopath is? They are just plain and simple straight up LIARS. They lie so much they start to believe their lies. They lie so much to so many people they can’t remember what they said to who. And if you followed along, you would find their lie would become bigger, more distorted or just completely opposite of what the initial lie was. They will never have the ‘perfect beautiful life’ because it doesn’t exist for them. Period.

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      • notme2014

        Ohhh…so true. He NEVER answers my question about his lie. One time he was telling me about one of his conquests and a few days later referred to her again using a similar but different name. I called him out and he just insisted I heard him wrong…OK…whatever!!. I have tried so often to have a sensible conversation with him…it just never happens.

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  4. 18mitzvot

    That is such a narcissistic love letter. First he blames you because he couldn’t keep it in his pants, then he blames you for not being slutty! How are these nasty insults supposed to draw you in and make you see how the relationship could be “perfect”? This guy is completely crazy. I will say that he is very good at the head-spinning. I love you but you suck. I love you but you are dragging me down. I love you but you are no good for me.
    He has no clue how much smarter you are than him and how much you have learned in the past year. You understand that he is abusive and you’re not going back there.

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    • Tela

      Thank you Rivka. I so laughed at ‘this guy is completely crazy’. Yes! He is 100% Narcissistic Sociopath. His face could be on the cover of a book titled as such. And every chapter would describe him, his lifestyle, how he sucks in innocent women, then to just simply discard them when he gets bored……oh did I mention? He never has left me alone. Quote “You are the only one I have ever really loved unquote. And then this is what I would tell myself when he would say that “I love you so much, wait hold on while I fuck this prostitute. I love you so much, hold on I have someone coming over to the house to fuck’…..and that is exactly what he would do. He would always say this to me “stop using your Psychology bullshit on me” 😀 hmmmmm, why? To truthful?! lol ❤

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      • 18mitzvot

        “I love you so much, wait hold on while I fuck this prostitute.”
        WHAT?
        Try turning that around with a narcissist sociopath. “Honey, can you watch the kids while I go out to dinner with a male coworker? I won’t be home before 2 am.”

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  5. revgerry

    Dearest Tela, I read this yesterday and had no time to comment so came over this morning to give you some love. First, big cyber-hugs (((Tela))) Next, stay safe, (((Tela)))) But mostly, my dear, please stop giving him your beautiful energy by responding. Saying”No” or “not interested” is a complete sentence – a complete e-mail – if you feel the need to respond at all. As someone once told me – “You are far too wonderful to waste another nano-second on this guy.”
    hugs, gerry

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    • Tela

      Hello my dear friend Gerry. This email I posted is just one of hundreds he has sent and continues to send. ALL, but this one did I respond to. If you read this POST you will understand better why I responded. I have visited your site daily because I have to get my ‘energy’ from some of your previous post. Not just with my education, at the end of the day I am still a human being with real feelings, real emotions and do have a breaking point. My site is NOT about me. This site is for any and everyone looking for answers, or trying to get comprehension. However, I do want my readers to know, I, too am human. I, too, hurt. But I also know thru my core being he and all Sociopaths will never change. Period. They will continue to suck the life blood out of you if you let them. And that is why I have had and will continue to have NC in place. So much Love and Peace to you, and your healing posts!!! ❤ Tela

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      • revgerry

        Good morning, my dear. I hope you felt in no way judged – there is absolutely nothing in me that feels the slightest bit judgmental. Sending you enormous respect, admiration and LOVE as you share so honestly with everyone else who is also dealing with a sociopath. Big hugs, gerry

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      • Tela

        My dearest friend Gerry, I, in no way, whatsoever felt judged. Quite the opposite. As I have said many times, you and your site help me on MY craptastic days. Even though this site is for everyone except myself. I’ve been through what all reader’s have. I’ve been through school to get my degree to help each and every person I can. We all walk our own path’s, and when we have someone {in my case you} that can write a post and I say {yes, she is right, yes, that is what I need to think about today, or yes, that Spiritual post was exactly what I needed} etc. then that makes the healing process a tad easier. Thank you, as always for your love and support!! ❤

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      • I am Titanium

        Hi Tela, thank you for sharing your wisdom, insight and human-ness with us all. Wherever we are at with our dance with the devil, being real, honest and human is what we have to hold on to and treasure. Sometimes it is all we have and it is enough. It is what makes all the difference. Thank you for sharing you. D x

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      • Tela

        Thank you Debbi for your kind comment. And yes, all of us get to that point that just simply being alive and being human is all we can hold onto at that moment. But those moments pass, and we learn to keep our heads up and going forward. There is nothing behind us. Love ❤ & hugs to you! 😀

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  6. MeAndDating

    These creatures are human parasites. They suck the soul out of their victims, sometimes driving them crazy. They feel no empathy and if they do, it is on a selective basis. Nothing is ever their fault. There’s always a conspiracy against them.

    Like all parasites they only exist by feeding off others. Such a creature will only go away when it has another host. The perverse thing is that the psychopath/sociopath/parasite actually needs their victim more than the other way around.

    Now a truly evil person would distract the parasite with another host, but I would only wish that on my worst enemy..or second worst. In good conscience I can not suggest anyone doing that.

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    • Tela

      Thank you MeandDating for your comment. You describe the Sociopath so well with the ‘parasite’ acronym. And you are spot on with them always having a ‘conspiracy against them’. That is a future post I will be doing! 😀

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    • Tela

      LOL, so now you know! There are so many terms for the people a Sociopath involves in their sick world, and to do their ‘IN DIRECT CONTACT

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    • Tela

      I know Persia there usually are no words when we have a conversation/argument/email exchange etc. They just simply obliterate everything we know to be right! Everything we know to be the truth. Everything we know to be morally correct and so on. ❤ to you my friend ❤

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  7. AlohaLover

    The ex I was with stirs the pot and then has his whores answer for him. He enjoys watching the exchange….little does she know a train will soon be hitting her as it did me.

    My suggestion is BE PREPARED FOR ANYTHING he may do. I am all about safety in the home and outside. If you live in a house, make certain you have lights all around. I have dusk to dawn halogen lights, I have motion lights in the front and on one side where the neighbors bedrooms are. If you are still afraid, install cameras….Costco has them and are fairly inexpensive and installation is easy.
    If you live in a house, get an alarm system….you will sleep at night and again, should it go off…..have a plan.
    Yes, there are times when my house looks like a prison…..LOL

    Take a self defense class. I’ve taken 3 years of Muay Thai. It’s a very aggressive form of martial arts. I’ve also taken Chinese Broad Swords and I have took 6 months of firearm training…..all of this WAS NOT because of him it’s exercise and it empowers me. However, all of this training puts you in a mind set to be prepared. YOU are the answer…..YOU need to protect you and your family. If you can, adopt a dog. I don’t know where you are but Tela knows where I am and I have a friend who is a top trainer that can assist you in selecting a dog. Above all make certain the dog is well trained no matter what the size.

    Once you are prepared, you will relax a little and enjoy life…..don’t let him rob you of that. Watch the movie Enough. That’s kinda the training I went through.
    Always be thinking. And as my trainer told me: RELAX…..BREATHE…..THINK. ALL of those things together will help you, should something happen. When you relax, you can regulate your breathing and keep oxygen going to your brain so you can think what it is you will do.
    Good luck to you.

    Sending you an Army of Angels to watch over you!

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    • notme2014

      I too have learned self defense and now carry concealed. Have guns at my ready and feel confident in their use. I have felt threatened by him without DIRECT threats…it was subtle… But I knew what they were. Came home one day with blood all over by my front door…that one really freaked me out! I agree Aloha, learn to defend yourself in all situations and at all times!

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      • notme2014

        No I didn’t call the police. But called him. He told me he was pleasantly surprised that I thought of him first…..????? Of course he denied having anything to do with it and offered to come over and check it out. He came over and I had my gun in my hand as I was checking my property.. He was actually afraid to come close to me….lol. That did make me smile a little. He knows I am an excellent shot… Because he is the one that taught me how to shoot… I still do not know for sure what the blood was from..

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  8. Santaland

    I fully understand you…after all the bullshit stunts they pull…there is the straw that breaks the camals back. They push and finally we react. I respect you for seeing things crystal clear with his bullshit message…Mr FFx11. And Tela, you have my full support too as you know…remember when I was in the dumps, you were there.

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  9. Santaland

    ….and this Tela was written by an adult….in childlike bullies mind. Disengage. I learned from you…give nothing, no matter how much you hurt, perform…be totally indifferent. I know your case luckily has some distance (physical)…indeed, bullshit, blame and more blame.

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    • Tela

      Thank you Santaland! Yes, luckily there is some physical distance. But like I said, even a woman with a degree in Psychology can only handle so much before you have to lash out one more time. Do I feel better? Of course not. The only way I feel better is having him blocked of course {yet getting text all hours of the day & night from his flying monkey’s}, but it no longer affects my mental status. He is sick He is drawing zero life blood from me. Unfortunately for you, FFx10 is way to close to you. So on a daily basis you have to walk past her & on a daily basis are still exposed to the vile, evil bitch woman/child she is. 😦

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