A Healing & Informative Site About Narcissistic Sociopaths

Questions, Questions, Questions

Everyday I can look at my Stat report and in this report it also list ‘search terms’. This is how people, like you find my website. Below I will list some of the most common search terms {questions} with answers. Most of them I have already written post about and will link back to them underlined in blue. 

I hope some of these questions & answers will help give you clarity, and also to understand there are many, many, many people who are or were involved with a Narcissistic Sociopath and the damage done by them is life-long. You are not alone! There is no one word magic answer to help you. However, the more you educate yourself on Sociopaths, the more you start learning to accept you could never have changed them, or the outcome, the easier it will be to start healing.

Most common question is:

Female Sociopath Traits, Is my Wife a Sociopath, Is my Mother a Narcissistic Sociopath, Could my Girlfriend be a Sociopath”~ I wrote about that here

“How to get back at a Sociopath”~ there is no ‘getting back’ at a Sociopath. What you feel is Rejection A Sociopath never feels they are in the wrong. The entire breakdown of the relationship was caused by you in their minds. By wanting to ‘get back at the Sociopath’ has a reverse affect as you start to focus on that instead of healing.

“Pathological liar vs. Sociopath” ~ I laughed at this as ALL Sociopaths are pathological liars. Period. You can read the post here As we know, as soon as a Sociopath opens their mouths, the lies will come rolling out. 

“Narcissistic Ex Blocked Me~ No contact Rule with Ex~ Sociopath No Contact”~ there are hundreds of these search terms like this used to find my site. I have written about NO CONTACT hereThis is the number 1 most important step to begin healing! 

“Sociopath Revenge Fake Online Accounts ~ Sociopath Smear Campaign” ~ There is no length to which a Narcissistic Sociopath will go to, to ruin your reputation, character, family & friend bonds, relationship with children. The Sociopath has zero empathy where your concerned. And actually feels a sense of ‘pride’, ‘winning’ etc when they can destroy you. You can read more about what they do here  

“Revenge against female sociopath ~ how to get revenge on ex Sociopath wife”. There have been over 1000 search terms for Revenge against a female Sociopath. I strongly discourage revenge as what could be the best outcome? More hurt done? More emotional damage? Possibly physical harm? There is nothing successful about revenge. I wrote about that here.  I get that you are mad, pissed off, angry, & hurt. But Revenge is not the way to go.

“I’m in a fucked up relationship” ~ Yeah! If you were/are with a Sociopath I’m sure is was really fucked up. I wrote about that here. There are so many levels of ‘fucked up’ with a Sociopath that one article does not really cover it. 

“Dumped by a Sociopath ~ Sociopath Left Me ~ Why did my ex Break up and won’t return text or calls, How could my ex just walk away and hook up with someone new” ~ This is called Discard! And it hurts like hell! A Sociopath does not go into a relationship for the long term, happily ever after. You could have been with your ex for months or years. But if you look back, you will see all the red flags, all the scenarios & situations that all come back to Sociopath. I wrote about how to deal with Discard here. 

“Gaslighting, Sociopath Gaslighting, Girlfriend/Boyfriend is moving to fast in relationship” ~ In the beginning of your relationship with the most perfect person you ever met, the Sociopath does the Gaslighting for a reason……you can read about that here.

My boyfriend/girlfriend is very private about their cell phones. Why does the Sociopath disappear”? ~ In most cases a Sociopath lives a dual life. You are not & will not be privy to their ‘social life’ or whereabouts, however they make sure to know all about you. I wrote about Sociopaths and Privacy here This is another hard thing to accept when involved with a Sociopath.

I could use up hundreds of pages of web space with search terms used to find my site. These listed above come up most often. Read through the archived post to help you understand what has or is happening in your life and what YOU can do to move forward, leave the toxic relationship and begin to heal.

And read this over and over:

Know Thy Narcissist

1.  Hell hath no fury like that of a narcissist.

2.  Whatever you know to be right, the narcissist will scream from the highest mountain you are wrong.

3.  Don’t ask the narcissist their age, no matter what they tell you, their true age is 2 – the year known for temper tantrums.

4.  Don’t ever, ever, ever, ever tell anything to a narcissist in confidence because they’ll tell everyone they know.

5.  If you enjoy being lied to all the time then make a narcissist your best friend.

6.  If you want to see a narcissist go into a tailspin, tell them a truth about themselves.

7.  Compliment the narcissist, even if you have to lie your rear end off.

8.  To kill two birds with one stone, tell a narcissist your enemy is spreading rumors about them.

9.  Don’t suggest therapy or a self-help group to a narcissist, they are already perfect and know everything.

10. If you want to keep all of your belongings and money, don’t let a narcissist in your home – ever!

11. If you loan anything to a narcissist, it was theirs anyway.

12. If you do anything for a narcissist, they are doing you a favor.

13. A narcissist is like the Pope, everyone in their presence is blessed.

14. If you give a narcissist a dollar, you’ll owe them two.

15. If a narcissist gives you a gift, be sure to get a receipt.

16. If you don’t like a narcissist, it’s no big deal because they didn’t like you first.

17. Narcissists are like teenagers, they stay bored their entire life.

18. A Freudian Slip to a narcissist is the truth.

19. What goes in one ear of a narcissist, never went in there to start out with.

20. If all else fails – tell the narcissist you have a deadly, infectious, and incurable disease which is known to be airborne.  It’s called speaking the truth.



22 Responses to “Questions, Questions, Questions”

  1. AlohaLover

    Hi T,
    I’m not certain where this topic belongs and I don’t know if it’s just MY issue or do others go through what I am about to explain and try to work through it or is this my new norm?
    As you well know my story, which is very much like the others. In the beginning he spoke to me in a loving respectful way. As the years went on and I caught him in lie after lie, whore after whore, porn site after porn site and even trolling on Craigslist , his ‘ tone ‘ started to change. His wording started to change. It was more demanding and commanding. When I busted him, he left. I was left in a pile of crap at the bottom of a very dark, ugly, terrifying hole….he broke me.
    Well, as I, with your help and the help of others on this site, I got stronger and stronger and my tolerance for verbal abuse….even the slightest commanding tone, sets my soul on fire.
    I’m doing social media for a friends business and helping the store at the holiday. I’ve known people at his business for many years and the manager of the store used to be an Ok guy….although I never trusted him at all….but that’s another story. In the past few years his wife left him and he has changed a lot. Ok…I get that.
    Since I’ve been there, he has started to verbally push me around, letting me know that HE is the manager….which isn’t quite true since I am working for the owner AKA my friend. He doesn’t ask me to do something he tells me to do something or he’ll say “Ok, you’re done” his way of saying ‘it’s slow, I need to let someone go home’. Yesterday my friend gave me a project to do and when his assistant mgr came in, he said ” Ok, you’re done doing this I want her to do it and you can go back to the phones” OH THAT WAS IT….I said ” you are so condescending and rude the way you talk to people and not just me…you are rude to everyone and YOU CANNOT talk to me in that fashion, I will not allow it.
    I’m not giving him a hall pass but he’s from El Salvador so it COULD be a cultural thing but he’s been in the US long enough.
    His tone brings me back to my past. It’s all been snap back worthy but I don’t want this to be a pattern in my personality. So, after all of the above, is this normal? I am very clear in my head that I will not tolerate disrespect from a man again, yet I don’t want this to become a new norm.
    What are your thoughts?


  2. Persia Karema

    Reblogged this on Blog Of A Mad Black Woman and commented:
    “There is no length to which a Narcissistic Sociopath will go to, to ruin your reputation, character, family & friend bonds, relationship with children. The Sociopath has zero empathy where your concerned. And actually feels a sense of ‘pride’, ‘winning’ etc when they can destroy you.” ~ Sociopath Life


    • Tela

      Thank you my sister SSS~ so good to see a comment from you! Sometimes we have to write with humor as our lives have/were shadowed in darkness and sadness. But NO MORE! All of us ‘survivors, victims’ or whatever label we want to give ourselves all have that incurable disease~ HONESTY 😆 ❤


  3. 18mitzvot

    I love the list at the end. Like vino4me said, I wasn’t laughing last year, but I am now. Let the soul-less narcissist be alone. He is blind, deaf, and mute to love. That is the revenge.

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    • vino4me

      @18mitzvot….what’s so funny about that comment, HE told ME, I will be so sorry when he’s gone and I will lead a lonely life until I die.
      And while I pray the right man will come along, I know I am not friendless, unlike him. His own kids don’t talk to him unless they need something. So, the way I see it…..revenge is happening and I am lucky to be watching his life fly out of control searching for someone to satisfy him and it will NEVER happen. If I look at pictures of him when we were together and him now…..he has aged a lot. Me…I just keep using a lot of eye cream and firming cream. LOL…..

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      • Tela

        Rivak, you have, yourself been through pure hell, and share with us on your site your healing process, where you have been, the good, bad & ugly of it all. I appreciate you having a sense of humor in spite of your own hell!! xo

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      • Tela

        LOL Vino4Me, you eye cream and firming cream made me LOL…your beautiful inside and out! I am blessed to have you in my life and so fortunate to meet you via this site!! Yes, P has aged considerably, and we both see him spinning out of control & more webs of lies and deceit. Whereas you can lay your head down at night with a clear conscious, he’s trying to find the next ‘feel good’. Sad! Now look at who the ‘sorry’ one is?! HIM!


  4. vino4me

    LOL….you hit everything ‘P’ is, has done, has said, everything and today I am laughing about it. In April I never wanted to get out of bed again but with your help, I am a much stronger person than I was. Before I met him, I was strong, I met him and he did everything for me….little repairs, little touch ups, bought me everything, he was my Prince Charming and I let my strength go because we were going to be together forever and I was able to let my guard down. And we were happy. We were the ‘IT’ couple, the couple everyone wanted to be…they don’t now. NOW….as I look back, I can see the reg flags. YES….I THINK of revenge but you can’t do anything to them and I think that’s what pisses me off the most. But, one day all the BS that he has pulled will come back to him and that’s when I will sit back and smile with a nice big glass of Silver Oak Cab.
    He may make A LOT more money than I do but I am happy….I have family and friends who love me and 3 dogs who think I am a Goddess. ‘P’, he is has no soul, he has nothing in his heart and that to me is the best revenge because he can’t ever get it back. And lastly, he will get a nasty disease from his time on every porn site you can imagine. He could very well die from what it is he gets.
    In the meantime, I am taking care of ME.
    BTW….I still get sad, which lasts for about 5 min, when I start thinking of all the whores he has f-ed, kissed, etc…..and not ONE…..NOT ONE was good looking. So that tells me, he has nothing inside of him and never will. His 2 lives will come together one day……LMAO

    And if you, devastated person are reading this and thinking I am wrong, I will never be the same…..you’re right…..you will NEVER be the same….you will be better…..good things are coming you way and mine. Stay strong.

    PS: Friends, family, co-workers will all say….. ” It’s time to get over it” It’s time when YOU say it’s time and you start to understand, it’s NOT you who has a problem….it’s him / her. And it’s not like any other break up…..this type of break up cuts and you bleed from every pour. They don’t understand and it’s OK….everyone on this site understands. Many blessings to us all.

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