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7 Qualities of Chronically Unhappy People

This was such a great article I read and wanted to share. As we all know, Narcissistic Sociopaths are unhappy people. Period. They can fake periods of happiness, change out their masks and even join into society, for a short while, before their true identity takes over. We all are humans and have our good and bad days. This article is specifically for those who have nothing but….bad days! 


Here are the 7 qualities of chronically unhappy people.

1. Your default belief is that life is hard.

Happy people know life can be hard and tend to bounce through hard times with an attitude of curiosity versus victimhood. They take responsibility for how they got themselves into a mess, and focus on getting themselves out of it as soon as possible. {most all Sociopaths fall into the ‘Victimhood’ category! 

Perseverance towards problem-solving versus complaining over circumstances is a symptom of a happy person. Unhappy people see themselves as victims of life and stay stuck in the “look what happened to me” attitude versus finding a way through and out the other side. {Sociopaths are unable to problem solve. Why? Because they are not the one’s with problems, YOU are.

2. You believe most people can’t be trusted.

I won’t argue that healthy discernment is important, but most happy people are trusting of their fellow man. They believe in the good in people, versus assuming everyone is out to get them. Generally open and friendly towards people they meet, happy people foster a sense of community around themselves and meet new people with an open heart.{how can you relate to this? A Sociopath is threatened by everyone, and they assume so much about so many different things}

Unhappy people are distrustful of most people they meet and assume that strangers can’t be trusted. Unfortunately this behavior slowly starts to close the door on any connection outside of an inner-circle and thwarts all chances of meeting new friends.

3. You concentrate on what’s wrong in this world versus what’s right.

There’s plenty wrong with this world, no arguments here, yet unhappy people turn a blind eye to what’s actually right in this world and instead focus on what’s wrong. You can spot them a mile away, they’ll be the ones complaining and responding to any positive attributes of our world with“yeah but…..”

Happy people are aware of global issues, but balance their concern with also seeing what’s right. I like to call this keeping both eyes open.Unhappy people tend to close one eye towards anything good in this world in fear they might be distracted from what’s wrong. Happy people keep it in perspective. They know our world has problems and they also keep an eye on what’s right.

4. You compare yourself to others and harbor jealousy.

Unhappy people believe someone else’s good fortune steals from their own. They believe there’s not enough goodness to go around and constantly compare yours against theirs. This leads to jealousy and resentment. {i think this person wrote this specifically for you!!! }

Happy people know that your good luck and circumstance are merely signs of what they too can aspire to achieve. Happy people believe they carry a unique blueprint that can’t be duplicated or stolen from — by anyone on the planet. They believe in unlimited possibilities and don’t get bogged down by thinking one person’s good fortune limits their possible outcome in life.

5. You strive to control your life.

There’s a difference between control and striving to achieve our goals. Happy people take steps daily to achieve their goals, but realize in the end, there’s very little control over what life throws their way.

Unhappy people tend to micromanage in effort to control all outcomes and fall apart in dramatic display when life throws a wrench in their plan.  Happy people can be just as focused, yet still have the ability to go with the flow and not melt down when life delivers a curve-ball.

The key here is to be goal-oriented and focused, but allow room for letting shit happen without falling apart when the best laid plans go awry- because they will. Going with the flow is what happy people have as plan B.

6 You consider your future with worry and fear.

There’s only so much rent space between your ears. Unhappy people fill their thoughts with what could go wrong versus what might go right.

Happy people take on a healthy dose of delusion and allow themselves to daydream about what they’d like to have life unfold for them. Unhappy people fill that head space with constant worry and fear.

Happy people experience fear and worry, but make an important distinction between feeling it and living itWhen fear or worry crosses a happy person’s mind, they’ll ask themselves if there’s an action they can be taken to prevent their fear or worry from happening (there’s responsibility again) and they take it. If not, they realize they’re spinning in fear and they lay it down.

7. You fill your conversations with gossip and complaints.

Unhappy people like to live in the past. What’s happened to them!!!!!!!!!!! and life’s hardships are their conversation of choice. When they run out of things to say, they’ll turn to other people’s lives and gossip.

Happy people live in the now and dream about the future. You can feel their positive vibe from across the room. They’re excited about something they’re working on, grateful for what they have and dreaming about the possibilities of life.

Obviously none of us are perfect. We’re all going to swim in negative waters once in a while, but what matters is how long we stay there and how quickly we work to get ourselves out. Practicing positive habits daily is what sets happy people apart from unhappy people, not doing everything perfectly.

Walk, fall down, get back up again, repeat. It’s in the getting back up again where all the difference resides. 
Post adapted with permission Daily Transformations


19 Responses to “7 Qualities of Chronically Unhappy People”

  1. I am Titanium

    Hi Tela and all s-p-life believers! I just wanted to wish us all a safe and healthy 2015 where we can continue along our paths to being chronically HAPPY-ier people! I am so sorry we have all experienced the dark side but, thanks to Tela, we are all part of the light. Bless you all. With love, D xx


    • Tela

      Thank you Debbi!! Happy New Year to you! A new beginning & how blessed we are to leave the darkness of 2014 behind. Thank you as always for you comments and support. Much love, PEACE & HAPPINESS for 2015 ❤


  2. I am Titanium

    No. 1 Victimhood, yes, I can see it very clearly now. Following the recent outcome at court, where the judge sent us away to sort it out and gave me his costs, I had feared the consequences… so I had made the decision, with my head held high (thanks, Kate) to walk away. But, no way is he going to allow this…so now I have a 5 page rant from his solicitor detailing my terrible behaviour and how I do not respect his parental rights. This is really not the case, though I have been tempted keep my son away from him. All I have tried to do through the courts is make him see he has parental responsibilities for paying fairly for his child. These types are not accountable and it has backfired, thanks to the judge. When reading his solicitor’s words, if I didn’t know better, I could feel sorry for this poor victim at the hands of his evil abuser. Their capacity for projection and blaming is truly shocking.


    • Tela

      You are so correct Debbi!! Not only is it shocking, it is incomprehensible at best sometimes!! Keep that head held high!!


  3. Sammy Silva

    Thank you for this amazing and eye opening post. I recently just got out of a relationship with a Sociopath… she fit all the unhappy people qualities and more. In the beginning she was the greatest person I ever met and even got engaged after 3 months… I should have seen the signs when she started calling me Mr. Happy Go Lucky right after we moved in. Now, I’m back to being happy and living life again with smiles, laughter and good times doing what I love to do. Thanks again for the write up… anyone interested in poetry please check out my poem about my Sociopath on my page.



  4. 18mitzvot

    Thanks for sharing this great article and for adapting it for NPS.
    My ex-husband: Unhappy people believe someone else’s good fortune steals from their own.
    My David: A Sociopath is threatened by everyone, and they assume so much about so many different things. (Projection that the world is a bad place.)
    Me: Generally open and friendly towards people they meet, happy people foster a sense of community around themselves and meet new people with an open heart.
    If only the NPS walked around with a sign. Instead, we slowly find out that they hate or fear the world and everyone in it. I want to be the one wearing the rose-colored glasses and bouncing back from hardships.


  5. secretangel

    Every word that you wrote is soooo true! I love the part, “we all swim in negative waters some time but what matters is how long we stay there.” There is so much wisdom in these words. We have to hold onto the positive and let go of the negative.. but some people are incapable of doing this. Thanks for sharing.

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  6. Live and learn / Dewi

    I really like the last sentence 🙂 getting back up again 🙂 i know i made a mistake and have dwelled on it far too long. I have realised that life is to short to dwell on th ‘why’s”. People have far bigger things to worry about than my past and i have realised that i have wasted to much time on this and trying to figure out all the lies. Keep smiling and belive in your close friends and family. Life is for living and enjoying. Get back up and start running and skipping 🙂 xx love you all. Dewi

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    • Tela

      Thank you Dewi! You did not make a mistake!!! Please don’t have that thought process. And we all have the good and bad days, and yes, are even entitled to them. This article is for the people {Sociopaths} who make everyday a bad day!! We all know their personalities {the MANY that they have, and so many of the 7 qualities can be related directly to a Sociopath. Get up!! Start running~ and I’m proud of how far you have come!! Love and hugs to you! ❤

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      • Live and learn / Dewi

        Hi Tela, i have made a mistake and its not what you think, my mistake was not realising, accepting and dwelling to long on thw why’s. There are far worse things out there and far better things too. Thanks to you i have realised i have been wasting my time, where i should get back up and enjoy what life has to offer 🙂 hugs Dewi xx

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  7. allabouteve16

    Reblogged this on allabouteve16 and commented:
    I couldn’t live like that but I certainly know someone who fits that perfectly and she thinks she’s a magician…… think about the names of bloggers lol


  8. Gale Molinari

    Reblogged this on galesmind and commented:
    Must be a pretty sad way to live. To never let go of situations and complain constantly pushes people away and makes them even more miserable and they in turn attack others to make themselves feel better. A really vicious circle.

    Liked by 1 person


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