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And……Back Again

I have only written 2 articles about my own personal experience with a Sociopath, as I have this site to help other’s. This site is not about me, this is about you, looking for answers to the many questions you have. Or looking for validation that it really is/was not you that caused the breakdown in the relationship. Or other post that may have brought some clarity as to what kind of person you have/are dealing with. So this site is for all of you.

Today, I am going to write about me and what has been happening over the last couple of weeks. I will not use the term ‘my’ ex-Sociopath as I want no attachment to him. Instead I will use his first name. And he is about the most vile/evil of Sociopaths you can imagine. Greg & I broke up August 2013 . If you read the A Face To This Blog then you know a little about my background. After the first couple of months of dating Greg, I knew, this person was not the one for me. All the signs, personality traits, characteristics of a Narcissistic Sociopath, he exhibited!! So I told him to his face “I don’t want to see you anymore this is not going to work”. That was not what Greg wanted, and in his words he said to me…. “you think you can walk away after breaking my heart and you not hurt for what you did to me? Your wrong”.  Well, if you have read some of my post about, and especially Scandal & Deceit you will see the lengths he went to, to ‘ruin’ me, and then me having to hire an attorney. To say it got ugly is an understatement. It was downright horrific/vile/nasty what he was saying about me to any and everyone who would listen to his delusional lies.  Ok fair enough, life goes on.

So 2 weeks ago, Greg decided I was back on his radar. I have had him blocked on my phone, blocked on my social media accounts, and my friend Jonathan showed me how to do a bounce back email. Greg obviously could not get through to me, so he had his ‘minions’ ie: straight up prostitutes, call girls, escorts, or whatever the correct term for those kind of women, whores are called, contact me. It started with phone calls, then came the most nasty vile text messages once again “BLAMING ME FOR HIS PITIFUL BROKEN HEART” {insert pure sarcasm and disgust}. One woman, whore text me this yesterday….. quote “all you have done is lie to Greg. I truly feel sorry for you and your ignorance when it comes to relationships and I pray u {sic} turn from your manipulative ways, & that God save your soul.” unquote. WOW!!!! was all I could think. I literally read that text twice and then laughed to myself. I was angry because here these total strangers are believing the spoon fed bullshit coming out of his mouth about a woman they have never even met. Then I told myself “stop the anger, what do you expect, he is a sick, twisted screwed up mother fucker”. Yes, those are the words I said to myself. Then for about….10 minutes I wanted revenge {in the form of getting him arrested for solicitation of prostitution, and the reason I know that is, the numbers his women, whores were calling/texting me from all come back to Escort Services/Prostitutes {it’s good to have friends that can access any and everything by simply a phone number}. So last night was the last night I was going to let his darkness over take my brightness. Yes, it hurt me that he still wants to mind-fuck me. However, because he is not able to {I have the control}, he has gone to a different ‘attack method’. So be it, today I’m happy, I am free, I know love and I feel love. Something Greg never will. He will continue to collect his whores/prostitutes and ‘army’ of disgusting women to validate that “I broke his heart and I am a liar, manipulator”. Well…if he needs to continue living in that delusional land, good for him. All I have to say is Hasta La Vista, Baby 

No scoundrel is so stupid as to not find a reason for his vile conduct. shakti gawain

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23 Responses to “And……Back Again”

  1. Constance

    These miserable “people” and their tactics. Keep on documenting. ❤ I never answer a number that I don't recognize, thanks to my raging narc aunt. She must have bought my number from one of the online services, because I didn't give it to anyone in my family after going NC and moving to a different city. The lengths they'll go to are mind boggling.

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  2. adventuresofeponine

    I’ve been doing some reading on psychopaths and sociopaths. I find different definitions for them, with some saying that the terms are interchangeable and some saying that sociopaths are people whose issues have been caused by traumatic life experiences and some saying that the 2 are completely different with different behaviors. Just wondering what your thoughts are about this.

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  3. JJK

    When you have no conscience you will do anything for a win. That Greg sad twat has stooped to only one step above coming on to your mother to make you jealous. I would text ya’ mamma and worn her, because at this point anything is possible..I count my lucky stars I never got nasty grams like that, just emotional black mail, “we were never meant to be”…”you just dont understand me”,.

    No fucking shit i dont understand you!! You have three shrinks bitch, and they are all busy 40 hours a week with you, and still they have made no progress in two years…Move on or they drag you down

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    • Tela

      Thank you JJK for the comment….I loved the last part of yours about TT and her shrinks being busy 40 hours a week and still no progress. I believe there is not a shrink/person/place or animal can fix these vile individuals. ❤

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      • Just Me

        I don’t think these people can be “fixed” either for a few reasons. IMO ONLY based on my involvement with a sociopath.
        1. It’s the way they were wired from birth
        2. I think they want to get back at the person they are with because it was how they were treated in a past relationship
        3. It’s thrilling
        4. A lobotomy may be the answer : )

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      • Tela

        LOL, I think #4 is the answer! 😉 . You do have valid points, and it actually goes even deeper than those. The hardest thing is to understand firstly, and then having to accept the whole relationship was a fraud. Plain and simple. While you know yourself was fully engaged emotionally, mentally,financially and physically, he was simply occupying your space without giving anything except empty words and promises {all the while planning the exit}.

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  4. Army of Angels

    Even 5 months with a sociopath can destroy! You are so strong and wise to have moved on. They never “heal”…and revenge only makes us hurt ourselves….break that silence! I am glad that you reach out to others!💜

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    • Tela

      Thank you AoA, I know my 5 months is nowhere near what you have and are going through. I guess I just needed to write this post because even though I am ‘immune’ to him for the most part, the unexpected attacks {by which they were done} knocked me down. I am, after all, only human. Thank you for your encouraging words, they mean so very much to me!!! ~much love and hugs to you~ ❤

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      • Army of Angels

        It really shows the severity of this type of abuse…the importance of staying strong and alert to the signs. It is a wonderful thing to be able to recognize it and move on as quickly as possible! (((Hugs)))

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  5. lilaosborne

    what’s really sick is that he continues to try and keep you in his loop. My belief is that soon, as a collective they will all self destruct and leave us all in peace…well that’s my fantasy anyway 😉 Thanx for sharing your story and keeping an open heart ❤

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  6. Amerini Indignati

    Otherwise….. may be you are right…. my ex socio in the last email wrote me that she want to destroy me going to a lawyer, she told that I “hacked her email account” and that “I stolen her computer”… of course these are unworthy lies… but i am sure she is able to cry in front of a court or lawyer in any moment to convince them….

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    • Tela

      No, he is not happy! Are any Sociopaths truly happy? It’s all about winning! All about destruction and then moving on. Am I sure Greg is a Narcissistic Sociopath? LOL….I am not only ‘sure’ I am POSITIVE. As far as the ‘stupid stalker’ comment, we live 500 miles apart but I’m sure if he lived closer he would stalk me in the literal sense. Over the course of this past year he has sent countless emails {which he thinks bounce back, but I can read}, that he is ‘moving to my area of the State….or ‘see you soon neighbor}. Very deranged! As far as your Sociopath and her malicious accusations, that is what they do best~ come up with delusional bullshit in their minds and then actually believe it themselves.

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  7. A male victim of abuse

    Thanks for sharing this Tela, and my gut feeling is that he is not happy/bored/vengeful where or whom is with, so therefore the attack, new tactics or whatever. Amazing how these types simply collect hearts in a jar…thanks for sharing your recent episode. And thanks for being you, because you have helped me along my journey.

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    • Tela

      Ahhh, thank you for your comment, and kind words. They definitely collect those hearts in a jar, then shatter the jar. ❤

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  8. Amerini Indignati

    I don’t understand.

    You wrote the socio are always going forward in hunting the next victims. My socio did way. I told in her face “You are abusive, you have to change!” and she disappeared abandoning me brutally with an email.

    Your socio is different, he is a stupid stalker. Are you sure Greg is a very narcissistic socio?

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  9. Magpie

    Wow! in a way i count myself lucky i was discarded, at least it meant i only had to sit through 3 months of my narcs troubled “revenge”, after i threatened to involve police he shut up. It was too risky to his future plans to risk a record. Plus as he was the one who walked away he already had the upper hand (he felt) the only downside i suppose was the 3 years of constant belittling, anger and general vileness punctuated by short bursts of grooming to keep me on side i had to endure. I do hope yours goes for a long walk off a short pier sometime soon. Do involve the police, forward all texts emails etc to them, build up a case file and keep yourself safe honey x

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    • Tela

      Thank you Magpie….I have threatened police, I have threaten just about everything and finally did go to an attorney and have him served. But as is the case with these people, my boundaries are invisible to Greg. Therefore he fears nothing or no one. I have kept the hundreds of emails, and thousands of text messages all in a nice little file. My family is very well aware of what sort of crazy person he is. But Magpie…..I don’t take his ‘shit’ on. I let it go last year. The only reason I wrote this post is because I was completely unaware of a new attack method he would use. Especially after being silent for so long. Oh well, now when i get a call from a number I do not know~ it goes straight to voice mail. 🙂 xx

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      • Magpie

        i LOVE your attitude! mine had a minion contact me some while ago, i told her everything he wouldnt have wanted to hear, true things about him and bs about me as i didnt want her to know anything about my life since breakup. She acted like she was contacting me out of concern for my well being and sanity (wonder where she got the impression id lost it from?) but thankfully i had already clued myself up on the methods used after you go NC ive not heard anything since, if someone truly cared theyd stay in touch eh! good post & it does help knowing about the tactics that get used x

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  10. Just Me

    I am only hours into this site which I had found through a search but I am so relieved that I am reading stories that I can relate too! A normal person breaking up with a normal person can’t relate to someone who has been in love with a sociopath and now broke up with the sociopath. While both hurt, the sociopath does things too you to question your self worth, he robs you of your self esteem. And yes, he does it with whores, or belittles you to his sister who knows NOTHING of his dual life. While I can’t wait to see his house of cards fall, I need to be aware how lucky I am. Thank you!

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    • Tela

      Thank you for your comment. And your correct, unless someone has been directly involved with a Sociopath, they have no clue the amount of mental/emotional and sometimes financial devastation caused. Think of it like this, it is almost impossible of ‘us’ to comprehend what we went through, how can we expect someone outside of the relationship to comprehend it. Hang in there, I hope you will get to see his house of cards fall 🙂

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