When we get involved with a Sociopath, what we give and feel is true honest love. However, the Sociopath gives us Lethal Love, this is titled Lethal because of their ability to destroy who we once were. After you barely survive the Tsunami Effect, there will be an abundance of questions, ‘why’s’, ‘how come’, ‘why me’, ‘what is wrong with that person’ and so on. There is truly not a one answer fits all couples and/or individuals. Keep that in mind as you search for answers, and/or understanding. And it is even more difficult when the Lethal Love ends so horribly. Will you survive? Will you ever feel whole again? Will you ever be able to figure out what the hell you went through? I can tell you yes, but as an individual, you are the one who has the hard struggle to get past today, tomorrow and the next to begin healing.
“You know when you are so dead in your sleep, that not even a thunderstorm can wake you? Sometimes it takes somebody to physically shake you in order to wake you up? Well, meet heartbreak, your personal shaker-upper. For a while, you will be upset that it hurt you, but ultimately, it is a good thing it woke you up because that life storm was about to eradicate you while you slept.” So now that the Sociopath Tsunami has done their destruction, find your own self value. It is crucial, because self love and self approval are irreplaceable.
Yes! You still love the person who caused this incredible heartache and loss. Yes! You still think about the good times, the happy moments, the kind words. Yes! You may even think they will change and come back into your life. These thoughts however are your minds way of protecting your already broken heart…. they will NOT change. Read that again…they will not change! The only ‘changing’ they will do, will be to move on to another person. And that ‘new’ person will eventually be given Lethal Love as well. So try letting go of the ‘good thoughts of the ex’, and try replacing them with good thoughts of yourself. Easier said than done, I know!! But the sooner you accep,t no matter what you ever said, didn’t say, did do, didn’t do would have still had the same outcome!
“Sometimes we must undergo hardships, breakups, and narcissistic wounds, which shatter the flattering image that we had of ourselves, in order to discover two truths: that we are not who we thought we were; and that the loss of a cherished pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true happiness and well-being.” – Jean-Yves Leloup