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I am Fine

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Can you relate to all these adjectives and verbs? Has your Sociopath made you feel never good enough? Empty, Defeated and so on? How do they do it?

As with most everything we do in life, it is all because of hard work and dedication. You work hard for good grades in school. You work hard and show dedication in your career and you are promoted, or get that raise. You work hard to buy your home, or new car. You work hard raising and providing for your family. With a sociopath you are constantly working hard at the relationship, with very little pay-off. While your pouring your heart and soul into the relationship, they are sucking the life out of you. While you are opening yourself up to their love and affection, they are completely emotionally detached. Some are living dual lives, other’s just have an agenda which includes having as many affairs as possible, revealing as little as possible about themselves. Most do not realize they have an Anti-Social Personality Disorder which means they cannot share a mutually loving, respectful, compassionate relationship.

Being involved with a Narcissistic Sociopath is like pouring something into a bucket. Imagine all the feelings of your love, the physical attractiveness, the happy moments, and equate those to sand. You continually pour those feelings into the relationship {the bucket}, and it slowly leaks out. There is a hole there where a heart & soul should be. No matter how much effort, no matter the amount of love, the amount of forgiveness, or even the number of excuses you make for them, your hard work will never pay off. You long for their touch, or just to hear their voice. You ask yourself ‘do they think about me’. You spend countless hours and days asking yourself ‘how can I make this better’. You can’t! So instead,  ask yourself… “How Are You”?

“Life’s under no obligation to give us what we expect.”  margaret mitchell 

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9 Responses to “I am Fine”

  1. Denial | SociopathLife.Com

    […] while never truly giving back or engaging in a loving, committed relationship. I wrote in this post how you are constantly pouring emotions, finances, etc into the relationship with your Sociopath, […]

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  2. Teela Hart

    “You continually pour those feelings into the relationship {the bucket}, and it slowly leaks out. There is a hole there where a heart & soul should be. No matter how much effort, no matter the amount of love, the amount of forgiveness, or even the number of excuses you make for them, your hard work will never pay off. ”
    Stop pouring that shit into that bucket of nothingness.
    Great post Tela!

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  3. eoftheu2014

    … and you have to work hard on feeling fine, something I just discovered. It is work to bring yourself out of rut, work to let go of something that was draining your very essence. I am feeling fine. I work at feeling fine every day.

    Yet, another great post Tela!!!

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  4. thenarcissistwrites

    You said it. They ask themselves every day how they are before they even bother with anything or anyone else, you deserve the same.

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