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Are You A Narcissist

Here are some questions to ask yourself. Some of these can be manipulated to pertain to you {or someone you suspect} of being a narcissist. But notice I used the word ‘manipulated’…..classic Narcissistic trait 😀 so you should answer truthfully.

  1. are you impatient and compulsive?
  2. do you enjoy telling other’s what to do? Be in a leadership position?
  3. lie to yourself to make yourself appear better than you are?
  4. need affirmation of your successes?
  5. do you have exaggerated hand movements, talk loudly? keep conversation centered on you?
  6. are you sexually promiscuous? do you have affairs while being in a relationship?
  7. do you place blame on everyone else? And nothing is ever your fault?
  8. short term relationships? do the people you date begin to see your true colors after a few months?
  9. do you become defensive with criticism? are you quick to criticize
  10. are you vindictive and/or want other’s to hurt if they hurt you {which also includes no remorse}
  11. do you seek admiration by devaluing other’s?
  12. are you a name dropper? Do you ‘friend’ someone for a higher social standing even though there are no similarities in your lifestyle?
  13. do you talk about your wonderful non-existent  close family?
  14. do you have difficulty taking order’s or directions from superiors?
  15. are you excessive about your appearance? have a grandiose personality?

Most Narcissistic Sociopaths will answer ‘no’ to these questions.

 Hate is the complement of fear and narcissists like being feared. It imbues them with an intoxicating sensation of omnipotence.  sam vaknin


20 Responses to “Are You A Narcissist”

  1. M.K. Styllinski

    Ha! You’ve nailed it Tela. Nice.

    I think we all have so many narcissistic tendencies. The question is whether or not they begin to take over and become pathological. I believe that this process starts from childhood for the majority, and those masks are slowly built in order to cope with life instead of tackling the demons which eventually begins to displace the true self. (Assuming there was one there in the first place).

    It’s always an act of courage to face those demons isn’t it? Sometimes shocks can give us a valuable mirror so that we can see our false image and no longer be trapped by it; so we don’t become like those vampires that stalk others who are willing to give up their precious energy (glug, glug)

    That reminds me of the classic “Trapped in the Mirror” By Elan Golomb.


    Highly recommended.


    • Tela

      Thank You M.K. 😀 And yes! It truly is an act of courage to face those demons, but firstly to recognize them. I will check out your recommended book….


      • M.K. Styllinski

        Yes, recognising them first is step 1. How can you be aware of something that you’re unaware of! That’s why friendly and safe networks of friends can give you useful mirrors or even some shocks to see yourself as you really are. Not pleasant for the persona but necessary. There’s a quote I recall seeing the other day which is appropriate: “He who is not aware of his ignorance will only be misled by his knowledge.” — Richard Whatley


  2. thenarcissistwrites

    Yes to pretty much all of these, haha 😀 I love Sam Vaknin. I read like everything on his tripod page.


    • Tela

      LOL Ponine~ I have to say I do not know anyone that has the marriage that you do, so I cannot truthfully answer you but will try……. I suppose if the BF do not know about the husband, then, yes, I would say that is cheating {in a dysfunctional sort of way} 😀


  3. afterthepsychopath

    Hahaha. Good one. I was getting worried as I started answering, since I had to say yes to some of them, and as I knew my ex-psychopath would answer “no” to them all. He was a shy and introverted man, so he sort of didn’t have all these traits even, but I guess that is your point. The list is full of traits narcissists typically will deny they have, even when they have them. At least underneath the humble facade they may (or may not) have, depending on their strategy (and position in life).


    • Tela

      Thank you Kristina for your comment. At the ‘humble facade’ is just one of many, many, MANY masks we know they wear 🙂


    • Tela

      ha 😀 no David, just another post on the true classic traits & harsh reality of a narcissist/sociopath. So many people send emails asking certain questions about their partner…and this list narrows down the questions I have been asked from various people.


      • hipmonkey

        😛 I reserve the right to ‘say no more…. j/k excellent questions that require the ability to be honest with oneself to answer.


      • Tela

        and how many narcissist / Sociopaths do you think even have the ability to answer truthfully? 😉


      • hipmonkey

        Ummm, zero. Hey! Q: How many Sociopaths does it takes to screw in a light bulb?

        Answer: One. They just hold the bulb and the whole world revolves around them.

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