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Pathological Lying

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Reformed Liar

 

Not all pathological liars are sociopaths, but all Sociopaths are pathological liars. The difference between the two is one knows what he/she is doing, and the other just does not care. The sociopath lies are calculated and manipulative, and in the end someone always get’s hurts. But you can be assured, it will not be the sociopath.

Because a sociopath and/or narcissistic sociopath has no guilt or shame, they will say and do just about anything to obtain ‘sympathy’ or ‘pity’, material objects, even custody of children or whatever they are needing at the moment. And this is often done with lies, for which they cannot see the negative consequences their lies have. This is one of the most damaging aspects of dealing with a sociopath as they can make you feel like your “crazy” when in all reality it is them. Reputations and social standings are ruined because of these lies. Family ties and friendships are severed because of the pathological cruel lies by the sociopath.

When you catch a sociopath in a lie, and confront them, tell them ‘no, that’s not what you said’, or ‘no, that’s not what you did’ etc; they will then turn that into an accusation and make us believe we are the liar :-x. Or they will get very angry and defensive and become the ‘victim’ instead of the abuser. Which is so frustrating, as trying to reason with a compulsive pathological lying sociopath is like dealing with the devil 👿 you are not going to win. They have an incredible ability to not only lie, straight faced, and convincingly, but when caught, they can then cover that lie up with another lie. Sociopaths use multi-layer’s of lie’s. So it’s a viscous circle, that grows bigger and bigger. No matter how hard you try and reason with a sociopath even if you have proof of their lie….they will somehow manipulate the truth into just a bigger and deeper lie. This is what feeds them, they have such a low level of self-esteem, and are constantly portraying someone they are not.  A sociopath is so adept at compulsive pathological lying that sometimes they are not even aware of what’s the truth or fiction. A Freudian Slip to a narcissist sociopath is the truth.

They lack remorse, and in the rare cases they act remorseful, it’s only to gain something else. If you think you can ‘reason’ with, or, change a sociopath, you are fooling yourself. This behaviour, this lack of conscience, is who they are! No amount of tears you cry, or ‘pity’ you feel for them, has bearing. And to spend hours upon hours of trying to figure them out~will only cause more pain. Those of you who have been, and/or are, involved with a sociopath, know the depth of scars their lie’s have caused. It can make you question your own ‘worthiness‘ to them. But at the end of the day you are only ‘worthy’ of what they are needing for their own gain. Even though you can think about the beginning….the seduction, all of the charm, the ‘mimicking’, all of the ‘promises’ that were made. No where can you remember the compulsive pathological lying.  And you may wonder…..where did you miss all the red flags? Why didn’t you see the lie’s? Because the sociopath made sure to progress the relationship quickly in the beginning, and most all of  the attention was on you, they deflected your questions and kept focus on your wants, needs, desires etc. All the while feeding you lie, after lie after lie. Even though you have positive proof of their lies, you heart is not wanting to believe this is not the person you fell in love with. Sadly, this is in fact the very person.

©sociopathlife.com

20 Responses to “Pathological Lying”

    • Tela

      Thank you Gale for the re-blog. And you are absolutely correct! Even with black & white PROOF of their lies, they will just say another lie and build upon that lie etc. All the while never admitting the TRUTH!

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  1. Stacy W

    My ex-boyfriend Brett Gyllenskog is a pathological liar. I never knew what to believe. He verbally abused me, cheated on me and separated me from my family but his lying was the worst. I’m glad he’s gone.

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    • Sarah

      Stacy W..My Ex, Ammar Mohammed from Toronto , Canada now living in Atlanta, Georgia (not a Citizen of the US) was also the same. Mainly Pathological lying, verbally abusive, cheated on me constantly and also isolated me just like you. They are so predictable huh? I’m glad he is gone as well…I thank God everyday and revel in the fact that I know his life is purely useless..He is just taking up space here on earth and using up valuable resources that true thinking and feeling people need.

      No Contact for 3 weeks almost and happy and Healthy…:)

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  2. kristalluvdbygod

    So true, and so sad. There is no reasoning, no understanding and it is best just to accept that. It may hurt now, but to allow it to continue will hurt more

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    • Tela

      Thank you Kristal for your comment. Yes, it is very sad, and also very hurtful. Because even the smallest of their lies makes us wonder ‘why cannot they not simply tell the truth’.

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  3. Teela Hart

    Ha…. I was so naive, I took the bait hook, line and sinker. I never knew I was being lied to and manipulated to the degree I was until after I left. Then the illusion shattered like a broken mirror all over my world.
    Wish I’d had this little treasure 10 years ago.
    As always great post.

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    • Tela

      Teela~ you were not naive, you fell in love with someone who lied and created a false illusion of themselves. Once the reality of who you are dealing with sinks in, it’s a very painful process to accept. Thank you as always for your comment 😀

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  4. LAMarcom

    “A Freudian Slip to a narcissist sociopath is the truth.”
    This is a great line. Sad, true, but still great.
    And great post, well-written and heart-felt.
    Thanks for sharing.
    Cheers,
    Lance

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  5. StrongerSoulSurvivor

    Great post Teela. I thought my ex was a pathological liar, until I learned that narcissists, sociopaths, and domestic abuse perpetrators all use lies habitually and deliberately.

    From lying about what they ate for lunch, right through to callous gaslighting, as you say, they do it because it benefits them. You illustrate how they use untruths to manipulate us (and get us to doubt our own judgement) perfectly. Fantastically done.

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    • Tela

      Thank you SSS for your comment. And you are so right on the lies from the smallest, inconsequential, to the most significant damaging of lie….always very frustrating!

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    • Sarah

      StrongerSoulSurvivior-
      Agree with your post and how they really get you is by making you look like the one with the problem and all the while saying how innocent and truthful they are and it could not be further from the truth…you continue to believe the BS they feed you until it all comes full circle and you are faced with a heap of lies and things that make no sense to the logical ones of us…I have never met such a deceitful and acting person and I hope I never do again…

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  6. hipmonkey

    I have a friend who is trying to convince me he’s a pathological liar, but I don’t believe him…. No, that’s a joke. lol Good post!!

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