Thinking about your Narcissist, Sociopath, Psychopath, you can remember how they are 50 Shades of Fucked Up! I am sure you have asked yourself ‘how did I become involve with someone with an Anti social personality disorder”, “how did I become a victim of emotional and/or physical abuse”? “Why didn’t I see the red flags” and so on. You may never know the reason! You can think back to different scenarios & situations, you may also remember the first time abuse happened. And you may ask yourself ‘why didn’t I leave”. There is a laundry list of reasons (&even excuses) why you didn’t leave. Love is a very powerful feeling, and just as powerful trying to let go of it. Some of you may still be in a destructive relationship, and I hope that you will find the strength to get out!
Once we escape the 50 Shades Of Fucked Up, we have to detox! What I find so difficult is, your family and friends, books, all give great advice on how to ‘Detox From A Relationship’. Ok, we are not talking about a normal relationship here!! We are talking 50 Shades Of Fucked Up relationship. The worst emotional, mental and for some physical abuse we will ever encounter in our lives. So how do we Detox from this?
To Detox you need to look at not only what you are eating, but what (or who) is eating you. Toxins are not just in the food and drinks we consume, toxins are also from people who don’t give you the clarity and glow in life, people who prey on your weaknesses, people who were/are your Narcissistic Sociopath. And trying to detox from your Sociopath is sometimes very difficult, at best! Why is this? Because they had the ability to strip away any and everything good in your life! They were hypercritical, judgmental and verbally abusive. The time spent with them drained you of everything except your five senses! Here is a list of some of the 50 Shades Of Fucked Up Toxins caused by your Sociopath
- Consuming thoughts of them~
- Blaming yourself for the failure of the relationship~
- Asking yourself multiple questions about why~
- Wondering how do you move forward~
- Crying and feeling sad most of the time~
- Wondering if he thinks about you (and/or the children)~
- Trying to figure out how to stop the obsessive thoughts about them~
- Having a low, or for some, a non-existent self esteem~
- Wanting answers, answers, answers!!! ~
- Wanting to hear something that will make it all ok, that will ‘justify’ everything!~
- Wanting to hear from them (yet knowing that is not the right thing to do)
- Defending your thoughts and actions constantly~
This is just a very small list of what you go through. But for everyone who has experienced life with a narcissistic sociopath, there is one common factor. We are left feeling numb, empty and void. Those negative toxins are in place! And each of us is different, and will approach the detox in your own way in your own time. The most important thing is, is that you do Start The Detox! Chances are, the Ex is not waiting around for you. He already dumped his toxins off on you, and is moving forward. When your ready, you will start to look at your ex as a big pile of dog shit, and no one eats dog shit. So instead of being 50 Shades Of Fucked Up, it’s time to become 50 Shades Of Fabulous! One minute, one hour, one day at a time!
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkenss, that most frighten us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Who are you not to be?