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Mirror Mirror

Mirror Mirror on the wall, who MIMICS  you after all?

There are several websites and blogs that use the term ‘mirroring’ to describe what a sociopath, psychopath does during the Seduction Stage 1. I do not particularly agree with that term, instead I use Mimicking.

  1. 1.
    imitate (someone or their actions or words), typically in order to entertain or ridicule.

This more accurately describes what our future love  devil in disguise is actually doing. And particularly the ridicule in the latter stages. Is there a type of music you listened to that suddenly became their favourite music? Did you like  a particular restaurant and surprise, that happened to be their favourite also . What about certain phrases you use? Did your Socio/Psycho start using those as well? Did they tell you how regularly they attended Church (only to find out they do not belong to a Church and/or Religion)…but they were more than happy to accompany you to your Mass? When you had to take your children to their sports obligations did they tell you how they excelled in certain sports? And then offered to help coach or try and get involved in their life (rather quickly)? Is there a certain designer of clothing you like to wear that, astonishingly your Socio/Psycho also wears? Does he positively enforce your good qualities? I could go on and on with the list of Mimics.

Why do these people do this? Because Sociopath’s lack comprehension outside of the five senses. They cannot comprehend that while they were growing up and developing their personalities, they should have developed their own individualism.  However, they missed that step…because of whatever reason {jury is out on reasons why as it could be related to environment, abusive parent’s, neglect and so on}. So they mimic us, which is part of their agenda, and a great selling point for us.

By mimicking,  we are drawn, almost immediately, to the similarities between us. Because Sociopath’s have had to mimic people their entire lives, who knows what they actually Do and Do NOT like.  If you find yourself in a new relationship with someone who rather quickly starts to mimic you {regularly},  and has other Personality Disorder traits, RUN! Do not make excuses, or second guess your intuition! Every single person has to have individualism, there is nothing wrong with having similarities and/or same values and goals. Do not be blinded by fool’s love.

Mirror Mirror On The Wall……He Does Not Define You After All! ~

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11 Responses to “Mirror Mirror”

  1. Jon

    Now I think back it was all there. She started wearing glasses just like mine, later finding out she had never worn glasses before. She excitedly exclaimed when I showed her how I liked my coffee (with a half spoon of Milo (Chocolate) added) ‘that is how I have mine too’. I found that very coincidental, as I had never met anyone that had coffee like that , but I ‘discounted’ by saying to myself that many people would surely share the same preference.
    She made a big deal when she saw the brand of dishwashing liquid under my kitchen sink. You guessed it-she used exactly the same. I genuinely thought ‘so what’ about that ‘thing in common’. I remember once not too long from the start that I had the distinct feeling I was kissing myself in the mirror. It was very weird. It was like someone was showing me what I was like to kiss. And to get even more intimate (and weird), after a short while (after she had shown me all her talents in the bedroom department and needed to expand her repertoire), I started to feel she was copying me, the way my body behaved during ‘that final moment’ during sex. When she orgasmed it was like I was watching me. Then and there it finally started to become obvious to me. But there were many other things she did that was copying me. Others were commenting in front of both of us how she was talking/sounding like me. The more I think about it the more I can see.


    • AlohaLover

      @Jon…..Thank you for your post…it makes me realize what an A-Hole he is. Mine did the same…I like country music and he started listening to it. I like this certain restaurant and when he left, he started going there and saying that was his favorite restaurant. I LOVE good wine and champagne….he didn’t have a clue when we met and all of a sudden he was an expert and made the remark that I didn’t know anything about wine….Oh really….let me put the champagne cork where the sun doesn’t shine. I’ll be getting my certification in wine very soon.
      They are like Chameleons….they have to ability to change and mimic at the drop of a hat.


    • Jon

      I have so much more of this. We both used to smoke. When we got together, we were smoking different brands but within a week she was smoking my brand. After a while (a year or 2) I even carried out an experiment. I invented a brand new ‘mannerism’ that I would use and I selected a couple of interesting words that I had never used before and had never heard her use and started to use these words. It seems strange now that I felt to conduct an experiment and I got the data that I was expecting (she took up the words and behaviours and made them hers) but I did not know what it actually meant. Like a mad scientist I was playing with new and unknown material (maybe something like plutonium) and not realising what damage was being done by this ‘strange new thing’.


      • Tela

        I had to laugh when I read this Jon. It brought back a lot of memories of when I was personally involved with a Sociopath. They are so many shades of fucked up!!! Hang in there. It’s a long, long, long road to healing and being an even better you!!! I promise!


  2. eoftheu2014

    You’ve nailed it again! He was beginning to make me believe I was “copying” him with things I was doing around the house. The irony is everything he was doing, I had done it first. I asked what others thought of this and no one could quite give me an answer. Now I know!!! He was mimicking! WOW


    • Tela

      Thank you for your comment @eoftheu2014.wordpress.com. My Sociopath made me feel the same way! And I would get so irritated when I would hear him ‘mimmic’ something i would say. Like i said in the post, Sociopath’s, Psychopath’s & Narcissist lack comprehension outside of the 5 senses. Now you understand, outside of your toxic relationship, what he was doing 🙂


      • eoftheu2014

        Something else that has been both interesting and perplexing about my narcissist … he sent me a photo of him a couple of times at a family function or some other event. So the last time he sent me one, I decided to test a theory I had … I responded with a photo of me at an event. Totally ignored it. Not one word, not a thought! It goes back to what’s important to the narcissist — himself! No one else! Something in my home went bad and I had to purchase a new one. I sent him a picture of it (at his request) — Not a word. Would it sound ridiculous if I said not only do they mimic, but also almost like they covet what you have if they don’t have it?!?! It is as if you cannot or should not have anything better than them. Love your thoughts!


      • Tela

        You are so correct!! I had several scenarios like you list here, and at first i thought ‘hmm coincidental’, but then I realized what was happening! I also come from a very large, very close family, and he would make rude under-tone kind of comments about us. Sometimes calling us ‘clan-like’. He is an only child from a very dysfunctional mother (who i believe is also a narcissist, sociopath). They are definitely difficult to deal with, at best!! Thank you for your comment 🙂


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