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Signs Of A Narcissistic Sociopath

So you have met him or her! The perfect person to spend the rest of your life with! Hold On!!! Not so fast!! Ask yourself these following questions, they may bring some clarity to who/what you are actually dealing with.

  1. Charming~do they say all the right things? Are they over-the-top with compliments? Never ending stream of hearts & flower words, text and emails to you? Has this abundance of charm set them apart from anyone else you have met? Are they to good to be true?
  2. Egocentric & Grandiose~have they told you how successful their career is? If they are a parent, have they told you what a hand’s on parent they have been? Has everything in their life been pretty much ‘perfect’? {except for the ex-relationships}. Do they exude an elevated self-entitlement attitude? Appear to be highly educated and/or knowledgeable about pretty much everything?
  3. Disconnection of Their Past~do they have any relationship with their family? Do they talk about a dysfunctional childhood? Do they tell you how horrid their ex was? Have you met any of their life-long {or long term friends}? Probably not as they are non-existent. Are they superficial when talking of their past? {yet delve deep into yours with questions?}
  4. The Victim~of all the bad things that have happened in their past, was it because of someone else? Did they miss out on a promotion because someone else knew how to “screw the system”, or the boss is a ‘douche-bag’? Did they get a divorce because the ex is ‘crazy’, or ‘bi-polar’, or ‘had an affair’ {or whatever numerous excuses they have}.  Do they not have shared custody of children because the ex “lied in court”, or the “their attorney screwed them over”? Is there a pattern of what I call the blame game?
  5. Abundance of Your Time~ do they want you to spend ALL of your time with them? Do they plan things and basically do not give you the option of saying ‘no’? Do they send excessive text messages hourly? Excessive phone calls daily. You know what the ‘excessive’ is. Are they love-bombing you?
  6. Moving Fast~has the relationship progressed quickly?Are they telling you they have met their soul mate and are in love with you? {after only a very short time} Have they told you they have never met anyone like you? Are they already planning a forever future with you and your still at square one?
  7. Intimacy~ have they bragged about how wonderful they are in bed?  They have set in place an invisible connection that makes you feel like you are the best match ever for him/her in the intimacy department. Do they make you feel as if you are the only lover who could ever satisfy them? {This also gives you a false sense of what will become a doomed relationship.} Is the sex euphoric? Unlike any you have experienced?
  8. Liar~Liar~i wrote a post about the pathological lying, the manipulation of words. Do they tell you a lie, that you know in fact is a lie, yet deflect the conversation if you try and discuss it with them? Do you feel they are deceiving you and not being transparent, yet demanding expecting you to be? Are you finding things they say just don’t add up? Are there inconsistencies with their stories?
  9. Prey’s on your emotions~ have they told you something to obtain sympathy from you? Do they need you for financial reasons? Are you finding inconsistencies with their stories of success? Do you feel mentally drained sometimes after spending time with them?
  10. The Art of Coning~ do you find they can talk for hours about pretty much nothing? Conversations from them are about some incident or experience that happened a long time ago, but can go on and on about it? Yet, if you question something about their most recent relationship/job/friends….they turn the conversation around to a different direction without giving you a clear answer? Are they telling you of the goals they have for the two of you? Are they feeding you false promises of a life spent in bliss?
  11. Impulse Control~or lack of actually? Do they do things without regard to consequences? Do they talk to certain people one way, and then someone else completely different? Do they disappear for any length of time, and have a lame lie excuse to their whereabouts? Are they careless with finances?
  12. Lack of Motivation~ have they changed jobs frequently? Make excuses why they may not have a job? Are they unwilling to fit in with mainstream society in their professional lives? Do they feel rules are not in place for them?
  13. Isolation~ do you feel isolated from your close friends and family? Have you broken plans with someone because the Sociopath, Psychopath has made you feel guilty for not including them? Do you feel your world is shrinking with only them occupying it?
  14. Body Language~do they invade your personal space? Do they have that blank stare about them? Do you find yourself questioning their maturity?
  15. Social Disconnection~do you find they can be the life of the party and be the center of attention? Do they put the charm on for your friends so they are accepted? Do you realize that they are socially disconnected from themselves?

If you have answered yes to some of these questions, get out of the relationship! If at all possible, leave while your sanity is still intact. You cannot, and will not change this person. You may even still be questioning yourself if in fact the person you are with actually is a Narcissistic Sociopath or Psychopath.  If you are searching the web for answers, then the odd’s are, you have now become a victim of one.


22 Responses to “Signs Of A Narcissistic Sociopath”

  1. Janet

    The lies are absolutely convincing to begin with, once you are sucked in there is an evasive pattern of omitting the truth or spinning excuses for their behaviour.

    A Normal person struggles to understand why they lie when truth & honesty are seem a better choice. Normal people don’t want to have a partner to control, to dominate.

    Covert manipulation isn’t a logical agenda, Cluster B personalities are dangerously disordered & disconnected from their toxic self.

    Victims of predators struggle with attempting to stand in sociopathic shoes, sociopaths narcissists borderlines are aroused by deciet, lust and creating fear.


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  5. kymlucas

    I was married briefly to a bigamist, and when I tell people, they think that was the problem. It wasn’t. The problem was he was a sociopath. So glad to have gotten out relatively intact. And the experience did make me appreciate the man who eventually became my husband. People just don’t realize that “sociopath” doesn’t equal serial killer (at least not always). They are charming, manipulative bastards who read others and then tell them exactly what they want to hear.


    • Tela

      Thank you @neilnewton.wordpress.com for re-posting Signs of A Sociopath, Psychopath and/or Narcissist. The more we can get this out, the more likely we can keep someone from falling into the same Hell we did.


    • Tela

      Living a fabulous happy carefree life PRE- SOCIOPATH! Please re-blog so we can maybe prevent this happening to someone else😊 ~cheers~


    • Tela

      Thank you @avalancheofthesoul.wordpress.com for your comment. I wish the very same thing! I will however, find some good out of it, even if that means I have ‘saved’ one person from falling into the arms of the devil. 🙂


  6. Teela Hart

    Reblogged this on Teela Hart and commented:
    A fellow blogger and “sister-survivor” made a post today that every man/woman should know before taking the plunge. With her permission I have decided to reblog. It is the sincere desire of every survivor to prevent this tragedy from happening to someone else.


    • Tela

      Teela~you are so correct. Please feel free to re-blog this, the more we can pass the information around the better chance we have of saving someone from ending up where we did. The survivor-sisterhood 🙂



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