Emotional Rape is a really strong way to describe what a sociopath does to us. This is calculated & purposeful behaviour meant to attack our personalities, rather than our physical self.
Above is just one of
hundreds , many text sent to me from my Socio. When he couldn’t get a reaction out of me with his verbal warfare, he resorted to vile and viscous text messages. And always with a threat associated, and an attack on my personality, as is evident in this text. This is one of several modes of operation for a sociopath! Remember, it is always what they want for their personal gain and nothing to do with the destruction of the relationship, or the emotional damage they do. They also are immune to accountability…..so in the instances he did in fact do what he said in the above text he always had a justification for every single thing! Example “you wouldn’t talk to me and i told you i would go find someone else”. Or, “I’m sick of your shit, i’m going to find someone who is nice and will treat me right”. Really?? And this could be while i was at work and could NOT talk to him. Or it could be after hours of relentless verbal assaults, and I would just simply stop responding. It is next to impossible to deal with a sociopath when they are in one of their entitlement rages! With these kinds of words & actions, it is emotional rape to the person who made a commitment to enter into a healthy, “normal” loving relationship. And all the while being raped of her feelings because ‘i didn’t matter’.
Sociopath’s spend a LOT of time and energy into creating a false persona of themselves. While we are putting that same amount of energy into building the relationship, they are blindly ‘raping the positive’ out of it. The are pulling what they need and/or want at the time, all the while we continue to feed their sickness, not knowing what is happening. Sociopath’s undermine our self-respect, and self-image, which leaves us open to more abuse. We then start to develop a sense of dependence on the sociopath which makes it very difficult to escape the circle of abuse. Because they are truly master’s at manipulation, and during the course of the emotional rape, it’s like they know when to pull us back in with the right words/actions. And because we are already beat-down, we want to believe what they are saying or doing! Hence the ‘addiction, or dependence’ on them.
After the emotional rape happens, and we are left reeling from the after effects, it is physically daunting to get through each day. The sociopath’s have no problem moving on….remember, they had no emotional ties to us in the first place. And that is truly difficult to accept! Even though, in our heart of hearts, we KNOW we are much better off without them. Yet we can remember the ‘beginning’, and all the perfection. Little did we know it was *The Beginning Of The End* from moment one!
This is one of the last set of
multiple text from my sociopath. Knowing my reply with the ‘have fun’ would set him into a rage, I was able to send that and know….I am FREE. Those text no longer ‘hurt’, they no longer ‘attacked’ me. And I feel sorry for the next victim(s) he prey’s upon.